If you don't have kids and you stay home, then my first question is why doesn't the spouse get a job?
theres not that much to do at home without kids.... so what does the spouse do all day?Is it fair to expect your spouse to do all the cleaning and cooking @ home if they don't work or pay any bills?
It is fair to expect your spouse to contribute to the household. If you agree that their contribution will be cooking and cleaning, that's what you agree to.
A non-working spouse is not your personal slave and thier agreement to cook and clean as thier contribution does not entitle you to unreasonable meal demands or give you the right to make intentional messes. As an adult you have to be reasonable.
I believe it is. When I was out of work and my wife was working, I made sure she didn't have to do anything when she got home or left in the morning. If your both working share the responsibilities. It can be fun and exciting to do the cooking and cleaning together, but if your not working, get off the couch and make sure the other half has nothing to do but relax when they get home from a hard day of work.
Yes I do think it is fair. I don't work while I have 2 small children I care for all the work in the home. There are occasions that I and the children go out of town and my husband will do the dishes or empty the dishwasher. It's nice. I think that while it is fair they are responsible for the work you shouldn't demand that they do it. There are days my husband comes home from work and the house is a disaster but that is because the children and I had a big day or what not. But he never says a word about it. Makes me want to make sure the house is nice and picked up for him when he gets home. But I unlike your situation do have children. Make sure you pick up after yourself. Just because they don't work doesn't mean they are your slave. Good luck!
I am having a hard time answering this. Do you expect her to wait on you hand and foot? I mean do you leave your dirty clothes on the floor? Do you pick up your dishes and put them on the counter when you are done eating? Do you put your toothbrush/paste away? Do you clean up your hair after you shave? Do you put your shoes away, do you hang up your own coat?
If you are doing your part, then she could be responsible for doing the dusting, mopping, dishes, toilets etc. As for cooking and laundry - she should have most of both of those down pat - but you could be a man and help her sometimes - it shows you understand how much it takes to keep the house running and appreciation goes a long way.
Having to wait on someone and clean up after them becomes a chore no one wants (they become the mother figure, not the wife) - you start to feel taken advantage of and you become resentful - it takes a team in the marriage . . .and you have to figure out what works best for the both of you - and compromise goes a long way. Good luck.
I think it is fair to expect your non working spouse to cook and clean if they do not work or attend school. My husband works and I do not but I do make sure that the home is clean and I do most of the cooking. I do it because I feel it is only fair. He works very hard to make sure our family is taken care of in so many ways. He is a good man with a good heart and there is nothing that I want for. Why would a non working spouse not want to contribute to the housework.
Heck yes. Why would your spouse think you should work a full time job and they should not do their ';fair share'; this way?
If someone loves YOU, then they will want to do their fair share and will want to please you sexually. If they simply view you as a human ATM machine then they will try to do as little in and out of bed as possible.
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PS: Equaddx says - you should not ';Expect it'; - well does your spouse ';expect'; you to work? If so, what is the difference?
Yes.
Simple division of labor. Things need to be done for the household, including earning money and maintaining the home. Whoever has the time and resources to best perform each task should do it.
Yes. Otherwise what the hell are they contributing to the relationship?
(unless you married a sex goddess in which case you shouldnt make her lift a finger)
It is not expected, but it's nice if it happens. If things start to be expected that is when the relationship starts to have problems.
As long as you show appreciation and ask in a nice way..shouldn't be a problem. if she or he is a lazy person, well then they are just lazy and nothing will be done.
seems fair to me, I live with my boyfriend, and I still pay bills, and help keep the house clean.
Yes, If they dont work.
No work = slave in the house.
Yes.
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