Settle a dispute with my spouse.My husband wants to put our child in an elite private?

My husband wants to put our child in an elite private school in Texas. I understand the desire, he gets good grades he is an honors student. The school he is considering is more than the mortgage on our house! His reasoning is you'll be sorry if you don't.


My other reasoning is only rich kids go there, and he would not fit in.Settle a dispute with my spouse.My husband wants to put our child in an elite private?
Okay, it's elite. But does that actually mean it's a good school? Are the classes challenging in ways that won't frustrate your son, and the teachers engaged? And more importantly, will paying for it make it more difficult to support him when he goes off to college, where academic reputation really matters?





If you can't afford it, then you can't afford it, and you'll need to look into other alternatives to help him succeed. But if it's doable, then let your son visit and decide for himself whether he'd like it there.Settle a dispute with my spouse.My husband wants to put our child in an elite private?
He may feel that if he doesn't give his son the best education possible he won't get into a top college. You should consider if this is a move your SON wants to make. If he is not excited about the opportunity than he may find not only the transition difficult, but also fitting in and making new friends difficult too. In this respect your husband may feel he is not getting value in his investment.





You must realize that private school cost much more than just the 'tuition' that they advertise. On top of that you have uniforms, books, etc. Additional expenses for private schools can easily add up to a few thousand each year. Look at the hidden costs too before making the decision.
In this day and age I wouldn't put your child into a private school unless you really can afford it. There is a reason why there are only rich kids in the school..they are the only ones that can truly afford it. Losing your home and having no money saved for the future will not benefit your child even if he has a good private school education.
Did either of you consider about asking the child? If he is forced then he may rebel and hold a grudge. If he has good grades then he is smart enough to make his own friends and it does not matter what school he attends. The diploma will get your foot in the door but it takes common sense to keep the job.
Your reason isn't good enough because kids (and people) always don't fit in to some degree no matter what. It is how they do fit in that matters the most. If sending him there, however, will be a strain on your finances, then you should abstain.
Accept the idea temporarily. If your kid will not fit, or the expenses will prove to be unbearable or beyond reason, then you may change to an other school. That is true, this can be a big opportunity to the kid.
Is he against the way the public schools are run? He can fit in just fine with personality, he does not have to be wealthy. He may be concerned tha public school will ruin him, and they do ruin good kids in public schools.
must be weighing heavy on your mind.... i think that if you can afford it, your son deserves it... it will give him a deeper step into the doors that he will be able to walk through with this kind of schooling background. better opportunities!!
i dont think you should do that. you son can still get a good education with out that. and he might fit in so you guys need to think about what would be best for him and how he would react to the changes you guys make
why would you be sorry if you don't? Is he threatening you? and why would you spend that much money? There are schools that i bet are just as good that costs less money.
If he can get a scholarship, I don't think you should stop him because of the culture at the school. Why is your husband threatening you?