Has anyone confronted the partner of a cheating spouse?

I caught my wife having an affair, I have the persons name and phone number. I want to call and give him a piece of my mind. Tell him to stay away or else and that he is breaking up my family. He won't stop texting my wife and I want to punch his lights out. Any thoughts? I just don't want anything to backfire as I still love my wife and am willing to forgive her.Has anyone confronted the partner of a cheating spouse?
John, let me offer you this.





While I do very much appreciate your stance, let me ask you something. Have you ever known a man to have a woman which did not want him to have her? I think not. No, he is not breaking up your family, HE AND SHE ARE. Do not place the blame on him at least not any more blame then you place on her. She is no better then he is and she has it in her control to stop the texting and all else in a new york minute. She is not doing so. She did not say not and she is not saying stop now. Face that fact.





Now, maybe you feel that what happened is your fault or something. Okay, maybe you have been a scummy husband. But if you both decided to work it out, it requires her to do her part. And besides, being a scummy or ugly husband does not justify her cheating. Any women that says it does, you need simply to ask if they are just as willing to give a man a pass for cheating because the wife says no to sex often. Watch and see how rapidly women will circle the wagons and cover for one another and make it a personal thing.





Personally, I could care less if you broke the guys pelvis. It would not be seen by me as anything but what happens in spots like this. But let us not forget that he does not deserve that anymore then she does. Do not let her play you man. She is a cheat and you need to face it. He is no worse then she is and you need to come to grips with that fact. As I keep saying, one of the reasons women act as badly as they do is because they always seem to be able to play victim. If you let her do that, you have asked for what you get.Has anyone confronted the partner of a cheating spouse?
There was a woman in TX (lifetime made a movie about her) who confronted the mistress of her husband who took him away from her. She confronted her by means of a lawsuit using old TX laws about alienation of affection. That woman won the lawsuit branding that mistress wrong to steal a married man away. It was very interesting.





Dont confront the man she had the affair with. What could happen is that you lose control and kill him or injure him and end up in jail! Your wife and that man is not worth you going to jail!





Your wife is whom you need to speak with. You need to ask her if the affair is over and if she loves you. If she doesnt love you and it isnt over then divorce her because you deserve better.





Change your phone numbers. Tell him that according to law if you have sex with a married woman it is a crime. And if he insists on calling her when she wants it to stop then you will get a restraining order and have him charged with adultry (both a married person and the single person that has sex with a known married person are in trouble according to law).
It takes 2. Your wife said she ';would'; break it off..... It does not sound very promising at all. You could go punch the crap out of him but he is not the one who was in the marriage and broke your trust, your wife did. If she really meant that she wanted it over she would change her number, email, any means of him being able to contact her but it does not seem that way. Honestly the best thing you could do is kick her out and move on with your life. Do not forgive her straight away because she will do it again. She needs to know what she has lost because of a bit of sex with another guy. If down the track (month or year) you forgive her then that is your decision but you need to distant yourself from her for a little while because if she does not have it out of her system she will cheat again
He's not the one responsible for breaking up your family. If your family is broken apart it is because your wife made a decision to break her marital vows and have an affair. If he's still getting in touch with her it's her fault. She has the ability to block his number, e-mail address or any other way that he has to contact her. If she doesn't do that then it's on her, not him. Your confronting him won't do anything to resolve the situation. Your wife has to totally let go... and she hasn't done that.
I'm going through the same thing. My husband has a mistress and i know because she contacted me this week. I still haven't said anything to him about it and i act as if i don't know. The best thing to do I think anyway is don't talk to him, don't let him know he is messing up your relationship cause that is just making him feel better. He is trying to take your wife from you. Talk to your wife and ask her to cut it out or leave with him. Let her decide this on her own. Don't push her to anything or you will lose her. Mean while you handle your business at home as if nothing happened. Saying anything to her out of anger will only hurt her more and push her to him. Try to get your thoughts together do not do or say anything out of the way to her. But do not lower yourself to their level by contacting him. Sometimes walking away is the best thing to do. I know it hurts!!!
I had the exact same thing happen to me. You need to face the fact that your wife DOESN'T love you. Why do you want her back? If she comes back, she'll do the same thing again. I think a vast majority of women live in a fantasy world. They think men are supposed to come home from work every day with a dozen roses, cook them dinner, massage their feet, and make love to them like a porn star. Sorry women, that's only in the movies. Women, by nature, are ONLY out for themselves, and they are loyal to none, that is American women. Wanting her back satisfies your heart, but keeping her faithful will be like fighting a forest fire with a garden hose.
It is her fault.. You said she promised to quit with him..But she also promised herself to you in marriage, and she lied. What makes you think she is honest now? If you chose to call him, then be calm and tell him you are the husband, and that you would appreciate it if he backed off, as the two of you are trying to work things out. Good luck, but I think you are wasting your time on your wife at this point.
well, I think if you have chosen to forgive her and he keeps trying to contact her, SHE should be the one to be taking control of that and telling him to stay away. I can appreciate you are angry as I think most people would be, but it's really up to her to end this.
i have confronted the other person as well as my husband. i didn't get angry with her unless she got mad at me. usually i would just ask WHY???? and i let her know he's married. at one point i was the other woman but didn't find out til after we were married so i knew to expect him to do it to me. and guess what... he's done it to me. lol. so confront him in a respectful kind of way. he may not know about u.
First of all, it takes two. If you're going to confront him, you need to confront her as well. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You let her get away w/ it once, she'll do it again.
Call him ...It won't make her quit ! Good luck.! If your wife is so immoral to cheat then its because she doesn't love you anymore!
contacting him with no stop the affair...trust me, I did this. It made the woman who was sleeping with my hubby laugh and pursue him more.


Look, your wife has shown you that she is very capable of crossing major trust lines that quite frankly, other women would never and could never do. So, why are you OK with settling for a lifestyle filled with a lack of love and trust? You may think you're ready to forgive her, but is she ready to stop fooling around? After my husband had his affair, I was constantly looking over his shoulder to seek and find evidence of further infidelity, which did occur. So what has she done to ensure that this is over with. The fact that he's still texting her is evidence that he's still receiving some kind of green from her. People stop texting when they KNOW it's over. Your sex and emotional life with this woman will never be the same as she has already very willingly bonded to this guy. Even if she decides to end it with him, what about the other men she'll want to screw. And, counseling can't change a person's character---they're either honest or not! The fact that she is capable of doing this to you should be enough for you to make a good life decision. Stop settling for scraps in life. Go find a quality person who will completely love and respect you. Good luck.