Is it possible to enter Canada with an approve PR spouse visa for USA to travel to Canada. I am an African in Hong Kong. For my Visa to USA I should enter within 6 months, but I want to visit a friend and later go to USA. Do I have to apply for the visa to enter canada or apply for a visa?I have a spouse PR visa for USA but I did not enter USA yet. Can I travel to Canada without a visa?
You need a Visa in order to enter Canada.I have a spouse PR visa for USA but I did not enter USA yet. Can I travel to Canada without a visa?
you need to be careful how and when you enter the US , your PR visa is not a valid document until you have passed through immigration in the US airports or whatever port you come by. Only after it is stamped by them and you have been given a what they call A number is it valid.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
If a person cheats, should that person tell their spouse?
It seems like the concensus is ';no'; from other questions that I have read.If a person cheats, should that person tell their spouse?
No. They need to leave the marriage without trying to hurt the other person.If a person cheats, should that person tell their spouse?
I would forgive if they told me
If like 15 years went on and I find out then I am gone
I caught my ex in the act I knew she would never fess up so I left...
I was just seeing if she had the guts to tell me but she did not so peace out lol
If you dont tell then you are a coward and not a true spouse
Would you tell a friend that he or she is dating a serial killer?
if you say no then you are no true friend
No.. been there done that and it just adds to the pain. Unless you are looking for a good excuse to end your relationship that you cheated on. Bury it deep and move on. Or if you have been cheated on do you really want to know? Sometimes things are better left unsaid
Well that spouse does NEED to know! but if it comes from another female sometimes they dont believe you so i would tell the cheater you have 2 days to confess to your spouse before i tell them!
If they truly love their spouse they wouldn't cheat but my point is, if you loved your spouse HE/SHE DESERVES TO KNOW. Even if the truth is going to hurt, it hurts more when they find out themself
i think they should.
why should the other person be living what they think is a healthy relationship. no one likes to be used or lied to.
Yes, staying clean and honest is the answer to this question.
Not if they want to stay married.
HELL YES!!!!!! I would have to tell my spouse i would go crazy keeping something like that from him.
No they shouldn't... they should regret it and have the intention of never doing that again.
No. They need to leave the marriage without trying to hurt the other person.If a person cheats, should that person tell their spouse?
I would forgive if they told me
If like 15 years went on and I find out then I am gone
I caught my ex in the act I knew she would never fess up so I left...
I was just seeing if she had the guts to tell me but she did not so peace out lol
If you dont tell then you are a coward and not a true spouse
Would you tell a friend that he or she is dating a serial killer?
if you say no then you are no true friend
No.. been there done that and it just adds to the pain. Unless you are looking for a good excuse to end your relationship that you cheated on. Bury it deep and move on. Or if you have been cheated on do you really want to know? Sometimes things are better left unsaid
Well that spouse does NEED to know! but if it comes from another female sometimes they dont believe you so i would tell the cheater you have 2 days to confess to your spouse before i tell them!
If they truly love their spouse they wouldn't cheat but my point is, if you loved your spouse HE/SHE DESERVES TO KNOW. Even if the truth is going to hurt, it hurts more when they find out themself
i think they should.
why should the other person be living what they think is a healthy relationship. no one likes to be used or lied to.
Yes, staying clean and honest is the answer to this question.
Not if they want to stay married.
HELL YES!!!!!! I would have to tell my spouse i would go crazy keeping something like that from him.
No they shouldn't... they should regret it and have the intention of never doing that again.
What if my spouse address change after he signs an annulment ?
he signed the annulment now a month later the judge want his address , can i give him the address that was last known?What if my spouse address change after he signs an annulment ?
If that's the last address you have, that's all you can provide.
If that's the last address you have, that's all you can provide.
Does wrongful death winnings have to be split between spouse and child?
My dad was getting divorced the day after he had his car accident. He died 4 days later due to negligence at the hospital. We are looking at pursuing a wrongful death lawsuit. My dad and his wife had been separated for 1 1/2 years and did not live together. She isn't my real mom. I have general power of attorney and healthcare power of attorney on my dad. I'm also the executor and beneficiary of his estate. Do I have to let the former spouse know about the wrongful death lawsuit?? She is legally crazy. Multiple personalities and bipolar disorder. I don't want her knowing any of these because she'll try and get her dirty hands on everything she can.Does wrongful death winnings have to be split between spouse and child?
Rules on this vary form state to state. You better get an answer from a lawyer in your state before you do anything. If she has a valid claim to any part of your husband's estate (some states require a certain portion to go to the wife) and you bypass her, it would really, really suck to be you. She could have a claim to you for both her portion AND punitive damages.
In any case, you should look at getting a lawyer for the suit. It needs to be investigated, and evidence needs to be preserved. (It has a way of vanishing, if you know what I mean!)
Also, if the accident was the fault of another driver, you will also have a case against him or her.Does wrongful death winnings have to be split between spouse and child?
yes, since they aren't legally divorced yet. however, ou probably won't have to share the money with her.
I am very sorry for your loss. I'm sure this is a difficult time for you. But don't worry too much about the ex-wife. If they were legally divorced, she has no right to his estate unless he left her something in a will after they were divorced and before he died.
If you want to cover your bases you should definitely get an experienced licensed attorney who deals in the area of personal injury and probate matters.
Edit: I'm sorry, I didn't realize they were still married. You will definitely need to hire an attorney because unfortunately if they weren't divorced yet, she technically is still his spouse. A lawyer in your jurisdiction can sort out all the options you might have.
The most realistic outcome will be that she gets half and you will get half if you have no other siblings.
Because you would be suing the other driver on behalf of the estate, the money would be awarded to the estate and everybody who is entitled to the estate would most likely get to collect from that.
The answer varies by state, but your answer is ';probably not';. In a minority of states, the separated spouse would be entitled to a statutorily prescribed portion---usually 100%, 50%, or 33%--the remainder going to the kids.
In a majority of states, the court would look at the date of separation to determine whether the soon-to-be ex-wife has an interest. In California, for example, the wife would not recover a cent (provided their separation could be proved).
Do you have to let them know? Again, the answer varies by state. In California, based on the little bit of information that you have provided, you would not have to tell the wife.
Most personal injury lawyers give free consultations. You would probably do well to set up an appointment to speak with someone who is familiar with your state's laws.
Rules on this vary form state to state. You better get an answer from a lawyer in your state before you do anything. If she has a valid claim to any part of your husband's estate (some states require a certain portion to go to the wife) and you bypass her, it would really, really suck to be you. She could have a claim to you for both her portion AND punitive damages.
In any case, you should look at getting a lawyer for the suit. It needs to be investigated, and evidence needs to be preserved. (It has a way of vanishing, if you know what I mean!)
Also, if the accident was the fault of another driver, you will also have a case against him or her.Does wrongful death winnings have to be split between spouse and child?
yes, since they aren't legally divorced yet. however, ou probably won't have to share the money with her.
I am very sorry for your loss. I'm sure this is a difficult time for you. But don't worry too much about the ex-wife. If they were legally divorced, she has no right to his estate unless he left her something in a will after they were divorced and before he died.
If you want to cover your bases you should definitely get an experienced licensed attorney who deals in the area of personal injury and probate matters.
Edit: I'm sorry, I didn't realize they were still married. You will definitely need to hire an attorney because unfortunately if they weren't divorced yet, she technically is still his spouse. A lawyer in your jurisdiction can sort out all the options you might have.
The most realistic outcome will be that she gets half and you will get half if you have no other siblings.
Because you would be suing the other driver on behalf of the estate, the money would be awarded to the estate and everybody who is entitled to the estate would most likely get to collect from that.
The answer varies by state, but your answer is ';probably not';. In a minority of states, the separated spouse would be entitled to a statutorily prescribed portion---usually 100%, 50%, or 33%--the remainder going to the kids.
In a majority of states, the court would look at the date of separation to determine whether the soon-to-be ex-wife has an interest. In California, for example, the wife would not recover a cent (provided their separation could be proved).
Do you have to let them know? Again, the answer varies by state. In California, based on the little bit of information that you have provided, you would not have to tell the wife.
Most personal injury lawyers give free consultations. You would probably do well to set up an appointment to speak with someone who is familiar with your state's laws.
Is there any other way to sell a home that is owned by 1 spouse without a signature from the second spouse ?
I am in florida and the realtor said I need him to sign and I am the only listed owner because of the home stead laws . Any other ideas?Is there any other way to sell a home that is owned by 1 spouse without a signature from the second spouse ?
How was Title taken? Even with the homestead law, you need to see how title was taken. If it is just your name. married woman, as sole and separate than you are the legal owner. If it says name,name, as husband and wife, joint tenants then both of you would have to sign.
If your agent is telling you that your husband has to sign a document it is probably a quitclaim deed so that he signs away all his rights to ownership and you can sell the house on your own. Are you going through a divorce?
Legally he has an interest in this property.
I see RED FLAGS on this transaction.......Is there any other way to sell a home that is owned by 1 spouse without a signature from the second spouse ?
You have none. I work in the field of Florida real property law and I can tell you that under the Florida Constitution, any sale or mortgage of homestead property requires the joinder of your spouse, even if yours is the only name on the deed when you bought the property.
Homestead exists as long as you live there, whether you take the homestead tax exemption or not.
The only way homestead disappears if you move off the property permanently with no intent to return. Moving out temporarily will not do the trick.
You cannot transfer the property into a trust or anywhere else, again because your spouse has to sign on that transfer as well.
At the end of the day, as long as you are legally married, your spouse has to sign the deed, even if you are in the process of getting a divorce and he is living somewhere else.
The only way you can sign for your husband is if he has given you power of attorney to do so. Basically it is a document set up by an attorney and states you can sign on his behalf
I would check with a real estate attorney. In the state of Colorado, there is absolutely no way I could list a house, much less sell it, if both owners did not sign. If that person is dead or incapable of signing, the attorney can help you explore the options you'll need to sign.rosacea anti wrinkle cream
How was Title taken? Even with the homestead law, you need to see how title was taken. If it is just your name. married woman, as sole and separate than you are the legal owner. If it says name,name, as husband and wife, joint tenants then both of you would have to sign.
If your agent is telling you that your husband has to sign a document it is probably a quitclaim deed so that he signs away all his rights to ownership and you can sell the house on your own. Are you going through a divorce?
Legally he has an interest in this property.
I see RED FLAGS on this transaction.......Is there any other way to sell a home that is owned by 1 spouse without a signature from the second spouse ?
You have none. I work in the field of Florida real property law and I can tell you that under the Florida Constitution, any sale or mortgage of homestead property requires the joinder of your spouse, even if yours is the only name on the deed when you bought the property.
Homestead exists as long as you live there, whether you take the homestead tax exemption or not.
The only way homestead disappears if you move off the property permanently with no intent to return. Moving out temporarily will not do the trick.
You cannot transfer the property into a trust or anywhere else, again because your spouse has to sign on that transfer as well.
At the end of the day, as long as you are legally married, your spouse has to sign the deed, even if you are in the process of getting a divorce and he is living somewhere else.
The only way you can sign for your husband is if he has given you power of attorney to do so. Basically it is a document set up by an attorney and states you can sign on his behalf
I would check with a real estate attorney. In the state of Colorado, there is absolutely no way I could list a house, much less sell it, if both owners did not sign. If that person is dead or incapable of signing, the attorney can help you explore the options you'll need to sign.
In processing the spouse visa going to US fr PHIL, can we just submit the true copy of marriage certificate?
In processing the spouse visa going to US from Philipppines, can we just submit the true copy of marriage certificate or it should be NSO certified?In processing the spouse visa going to US fr PHIL, can we just submit the true copy of marriage certificate?
it is better to have a certified one and make sure you have several copies in case you need more...In processing the spouse visa going to US fr PHIL, can we just submit the true copy of marriage certificate?
It MUST come from the NSO. The US embassy will only accept NSO documents on NSO stationary.
it is better to have a certified one and make sure you have several copies in case you need more...In processing the spouse visa going to US fr PHIL, can we just submit the true copy of marriage certificate?
It MUST come from the NSO. The US embassy will only accept NSO documents on NSO stationary.
Why am I not intersting making love with my spouse?
I am 36 years old and I am not feel connect to my spouse. I guess he had affair and I lost intersing having sex with him.
I do love him and he doesn't mind at all.
Is this nomal?Why am I not intersting making love with my spouse?
He doesn't mind at all???
You don't really believe that. That's why you're here asking a question. You shouldn't believe it, because no one with even half a functioning brain would believe it either.
He might be willing to punishing himself to make up for having an affair, but without a doubt, he won't be willing to punish himself forever. You also need to remember... you're married to the kind of man who cheated when you WERE having sex with him... AND, there's some woman out there who was willing to have sex with him. Unless she's dead, you may be giving your husband the perfect excuse to look her up again.
Get yourself into some counseling... with, or without him.Why am I not intersting making love with my spouse?
Hello;
What an interesting question ...
I rather think that it is a little normal, but since it is bothering you the real question is what to do about it.
It sounds to me like there is a real lack of communication ';I guess he had an affair';. That is not something for guesswork either he had an affair or he didn't. If you don't know for sure then you might want to find out.
Ultimately you might want to get some professional help. Pretty much any marriage counsellor will be able to help you.
Best of luck,
Bill
This is very normal to feel angry and hurt at the affair. But if you want your marriage to work then you have to treat him like he is your husband. Nagging, withholding sex, and being angry will drive him right out the door.
If you are hurt beyond repair then end the marriage and move on.
Ask him if you can go to an adult toy store and be provactive with him. See if he has any interest in you with toys. See if he is turned on to you being there. Show him toys that both can use and or toys he can use on you. Tease him, by going through the movies telling how you would like it. See if they have dress up clothes and tempt him with them. Tell him how you are going dress up in them and how you are going to do a striptease or tell him how you want him to do you with them on. Be a sensual schoolgirl. Let him in on your fantasies. If this doesn't get him interested in you. He must be GAY. Divorce the ******.
in my line of work when a man is not a little upset by his wife's lack of making love he might be having another affair. so in terms that would not be normal. i think that you two could see a Professional, no offense, because i would hate for you two to be just another statistic. i hope this helps. happy new year
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HUH ?? You ';GUESS'; he had an affair???? WTF is that??
Communicate with him. Find out for sure! Then communicate with him more and decide if you can forgive his behavior or not.
It sounds like two strangers living in the same house..
Once someone has had an affair is is hard to trust again which also makes it hard to feel comfortable enough to be Intimate! You need to reconnect as a couple and then the sex will come!
You feel detached because he broke your trust. You need counseling because you obviously has not forgiven or forgotten. Things will only get worse. Have you ever thought he does not mind because he still gets it elsewhere?
Maybe you need to tell him how freeking pissed off you are he slept with another woman...then you both need to work out the problems in your marriage.
as long as he is still paying the bills and he dont mind you not having sex with him .. why do you care ...
No it is not. See a marriage counselor.
I do love him and he doesn't mind at all.
Is this nomal?Why am I not intersting making love with my spouse?
He doesn't mind at all???
You don't really believe that. That's why you're here asking a question. You shouldn't believe it, because no one with even half a functioning brain would believe it either.
He might be willing to punishing himself to make up for having an affair, but without a doubt, he won't be willing to punish himself forever. You also need to remember... you're married to the kind of man who cheated when you WERE having sex with him... AND, there's some woman out there who was willing to have sex with him. Unless she's dead, you may be giving your husband the perfect excuse to look her up again.
Get yourself into some counseling... with, or without him.Why am I not intersting making love with my spouse?
Hello;
What an interesting question ...
I rather think that it is a little normal, but since it is bothering you the real question is what to do about it.
It sounds to me like there is a real lack of communication ';I guess he had an affair';. That is not something for guesswork either he had an affair or he didn't. If you don't know for sure then you might want to find out.
Ultimately you might want to get some professional help. Pretty much any marriage counsellor will be able to help you.
Best of luck,
Bill
This is very normal to feel angry and hurt at the affair. But if you want your marriage to work then you have to treat him like he is your husband. Nagging, withholding sex, and being angry will drive him right out the door.
If you are hurt beyond repair then end the marriage and move on.
Ask him if you can go to an adult toy store and be provactive with him. See if he has any interest in you with toys. See if he is turned on to you being there. Show him toys that both can use and or toys he can use on you. Tease him, by going through the movies telling how you would like it. See if they have dress up clothes and tempt him with them. Tell him how you are going dress up in them and how you are going to do a striptease or tell him how you want him to do you with them on. Be a sensual schoolgirl. Let him in on your fantasies. If this doesn't get him interested in you. He must be GAY. Divorce the ******.
in my line of work when a man is not a little upset by his wife's lack of making love he might be having another affair. so in terms that would not be normal. i think that you two could see a Professional, no offense, because i would hate for you two to be just another statistic. i hope this helps. happy new year
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HUH ?? You ';GUESS'; he had an affair???? WTF is that??
Communicate with him. Find out for sure! Then communicate with him more and decide if you can forgive his behavior or not.
It sounds like two strangers living in the same house..
Once someone has had an affair is is hard to trust again which also makes it hard to feel comfortable enough to be Intimate! You need to reconnect as a couple and then the sex will come!
You feel detached because he broke your trust. You need counseling because you obviously has not forgiven or forgotten. Things will only get worse. Have you ever thought he does not mind because he still gets it elsewhere?
Maybe you need to tell him how freeking pissed off you are he slept with another woman...then you both need to work out the problems in your marriage.
as long as he is still paying the bills and he dont mind you not having sex with him .. why do you care ...
No it is not. See a marriage counselor.
Do rabbit have a longer life with a spouse?
I have an only rabbit, and she's almost 2 years old. She is a dwarf(not sure what kind) and is like 2.5 pounds. I just want to know if another rabbit were to keep her company, would she live a happier and longer life?Do rabbit have a longer life with a spouse?
Hello,
Is she neutered? You won't be able to pair her unless she is,as when paired with a male/buck she could possibly have a new litter of 5-6 EVERY month,considering that a rabbits gestation period lasts for 31 days(1 month) %26amp; she is willing to mate again straight after she kindles(births). A neutered male %26amp; female rabbit makes a excellent pair,its recommended. Due to the reason they both respect each other,even if they aren't neutered. Two males rabbits together do not usually get on well,two females together also have similar affects,although when neutered most single sex pairs do get on,having one of each sex,plus getting them neutered has best results.
It is said neutered paired rabbits live a slightly longer %26amp; I do say fuller/happier life! As they always have each other,even when you're not there. Unaltered %26amp; non breeding female rabbits have a 80% chance of getting Uterus cancer,by the time they are 4-5 years of age. Isn't that a good enough reason to get her neutered(spayed) if she isn't already?
Hope I helped,best wishes! xxxDo rabbit have a longer life with a spouse?
Well, when two rabbits are together they are much happier because they have another bunny to socialize with. Two bunnies together may not neccessarily live longer, but they groom each other and cuddle up to each other. Also, is your rabbit neutered? If you get another rabbit, and it is a male, and they aren't nuetered, they will breed. Also if your rabbit isn't neutered she has a 85% chance of getting cancer. If you take your rabbit out and socialize with her a lot, then I'm sure your rabbit is a happy bunny. Although a companion for her would always be good too.
your bunny might be okay with a NEUTERED male.. but if you put her with an intact one it will shorten her life for sure..
breeding is always risky, and some rabbits if they dont have babies younger, their hips become hard so they cannot deliver sucessfully and die..
Rabbits can't get married.
i seriously doubt it
bunny! lol
Hello,
Is she neutered? You won't be able to pair her unless she is,as when paired with a male/buck she could possibly have a new litter of 5-6 EVERY month,considering that a rabbits gestation period lasts for 31 days(1 month) %26amp; she is willing to mate again straight after she kindles(births). A neutered male %26amp; female rabbit makes a excellent pair,its recommended. Due to the reason they both respect each other,even if they aren't neutered. Two males rabbits together do not usually get on well,two females together also have similar affects,although when neutered most single sex pairs do get on,having one of each sex,plus getting them neutered has best results.
It is said neutered paired rabbits live a slightly longer %26amp; I do say fuller/happier life! As they always have each other,even when you're not there. Unaltered %26amp; non breeding female rabbits have a 80% chance of getting Uterus cancer,by the time they are 4-5 years of age. Isn't that a good enough reason to get her neutered(spayed) if she isn't already?
Hope I helped,best wishes! xxxDo rabbit have a longer life with a spouse?
Well, when two rabbits are together they are much happier because they have another bunny to socialize with. Two bunnies together may not neccessarily live longer, but they groom each other and cuddle up to each other. Also, is your rabbit neutered? If you get another rabbit, and it is a male, and they aren't nuetered, they will breed. Also if your rabbit isn't neutered she has a 85% chance of getting cancer. If you take your rabbit out and socialize with her a lot, then I'm sure your rabbit is a happy bunny. Although a companion for her would always be good too.
your bunny might be okay with a NEUTERED male.. but if you put her with an intact one it will shorten her life for sure..
breeding is always risky, and some rabbits if they dont have babies younger, their hips become hard so they cannot deliver sucessfully and die..
Rabbits can't get married.
i seriously doubt it
bunny! lol
Can my spouse be garnished for a debt i owed before we got married?
I had a school debt that I didn't pay and then I got married. Can the collectors garnish my spouses federal income tax return?Can my spouse be garnished for a debt i owed before we got married?
Have you filed your federal return yet? Either way the answer is NO, however they WILL take all and any amount you may have coming back against your debt, so your spouse has to file an ';Injured Spouse - Form 8379';. This will ensure that your spouse will get their portion of the return back. Your spouse CAN file this form even if you have already sent it your return. The form is fairly simple to fill out. Go the IRS website to get it, then make SURE you send this form in every year with your tax return until your debt is paid.
However if you owe taxes any particular year then you don't have send the form for that year.
Just, FYI the IRS will determine what portion is yours and what portion is your spouse's, then they will refund x amount accordingly. They usually send you a letter stating how much your spouse will get back about a week after you get the check, LOL!
Hope this helpsCan my spouse be garnished for a debt i owed before we got married?
If the taxes are in his name only, no...if you've filed married filing joint..probably so...it's a government debt, they can seize what is owed and release the balance if any.
Have you filed your federal return yet? Either way the answer is NO, however they WILL take all and any amount you may have coming back against your debt, so your spouse has to file an ';Injured Spouse - Form 8379';. This will ensure that your spouse will get their portion of the return back. Your spouse CAN file this form even if you have already sent it your return. The form is fairly simple to fill out. Go the IRS website to get it, then make SURE you send this form in every year with your tax return until your debt is paid.
However if you owe taxes any particular year then you don't have send the form for that year.
Just, FYI the IRS will determine what portion is yours and what portion is your spouse's, then they will refund x amount accordingly. They usually send you a letter stating how much your spouse will get back about a week after you get the check, LOL!
Hope this helpsCan my spouse be garnished for a debt i owed before we got married?
If the taxes are in his name only, no...if you've filed married filing joint..probably so...it's a government debt, they can seize what is owed and release the balance if any.
Can an Company/employer offer benefits (health insurance) only to the employee and not his spouse?
Mu husband has been offered a job in Arizona and it seems the company only has employee benefits for employees and not for his family. That means that only he gets health insurance and not I. We don't have a kids yet, but plan to. Is that legal for a company to do that? Can we ask for coverage? What should we do?Can an Company/employer offer benefits (health insurance) only to the employee and not his spouse?
Of course its legal for them to do that.
They don't even HAVE to offer health insurance to him - its a ';perk.';
Actually, most employers don't contribute much (if anything) towards the cost of family health insurance coverage. Most employers charge the employee the extra premium for family coverage. The employer has no obligation to extend any coverage to you, and they certainly aren't obligated to contribute financially towards any of your expenses.
If your husband wants this job, then you'll have to get coverage through your own employer. Otherwise, he'll have to decline and look for a position that offers family coverage.Can an Company/employer offer benefits (health insurance) only to the employee and not his spouse?
Yes. They have no obligation to offer ANY benefits at all. If they do, they can choose to cover only the employee.
They're not going to make an ';exception'; for you. Legally, they can't do that.
If you want kids, and want insurance to pay for the childbirth costs, his best option is to decline the job. He should tell them why - that you need FAMILY health coverage, not just employee health coverage.
It is perfectly legal. More and more companies are going this route because of the cost. Some will allow an employee to sign up for family coverage if the employee pays the full amount for the additional coverage. Otherwise, you'll have to find your own.
Yes they can.
Many employers offer family coverage if the employee chooses and pays the diference from their own pocket.
He should ask.
~~Yes they can do this. You and once you have kids, would need to apply for a private insurance plan.~~
Of course its legal for them to do that.
They don't even HAVE to offer health insurance to him - its a ';perk.';
Actually, most employers don't contribute much (if anything) towards the cost of family health insurance coverage. Most employers charge the employee the extra premium for family coverage. The employer has no obligation to extend any coverage to you, and they certainly aren't obligated to contribute financially towards any of your expenses.
If your husband wants this job, then you'll have to get coverage through your own employer. Otherwise, he'll have to decline and look for a position that offers family coverage.Can an Company/employer offer benefits (health insurance) only to the employee and not his spouse?
Yes. They have no obligation to offer ANY benefits at all. If they do, they can choose to cover only the employee.
They're not going to make an ';exception'; for you. Legally, they can't do that.
If you want kids, and want insurance to pay for the childbirth costs, his best option is to decline the job. He should tell them why - that you need FAMILY health coverage, not just employee health coverage.
It is perfectly legal. More and more companies are going this route because of the cost. Some will allow an employee to sign up for family coverage if the employee pays the full amount for the additional coverage. Otherwise, you'll have to find your own.
Yes they can.
Many employers offer family coverage if the employee chooses and pays the diference from their own pocket.
He should ask.
~~Yes they can do this. You and once you have kids, would need to apply for a private insurance plan.~~
Is it ever justified to cheat on a spouse or in a relationship?
What would you classify as cheating?Is it ever justified to cheat on a spouse or in a relationship?
No, it's never justified. And I think the classifications of cheating depend on the relationship. I've always felt that it's cheating if you go as far as you have with your significant other. If you've only ever kissed your S.O. then a kiss with another person would be a lot more important than if you've had sex with your S.O. If that's the case, then a kiss doesn't hold as much meaning.Is it ever justified to cheat on a spouse or in a relationship?
it's never justified
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No, it's never justified. And I think the classifications of cheating depend on the relationship. I've always felt that it's cheating if you go as far as you have with your significant other. If you've only ever kissed your S.O. then a kiss with another person would be a lot more important than if you've had sex with your S.O. If that's the case, then a kiss doesn't hold as much meaning.Is it ever justified to cheat on a spouse or in a relationship?
it's never justified
never i know from experince it causes problems
How old were you when you and your spouse got together?
My boyfriend and I are fifteen and we have such a strong connection. Now I know some young relationships dont work but others end up getting married. So im wondering how old you were when you got together? And also, were you guys veryt clingy, attatched, just in general how was your relationship?How old were you when you and your spouse got together?
I was 17 and he was 16 and we have been together for 10 years and have been married for 3. We have a good relationship. We was in school so we got to see each other everyday and we moved in together after school. We was very happy and just had a few fights. I hope everything goes good.How old were you when you and your spouse got together?
she was 14 and i was 15 ,it was great we spent lots of time together and moved in together at 16, had our son at 18 and daughter at 22,
no its not all plain sailing its hard work and ill tell you this its worth it,
but it doesn't work out all the time,my son is just turning 21 and my daughter 16 and we have separated,
i don't want to put you off we had a Great life together all the 4 of us and we still talk and i stay there when im back in the country,but we just grew apart and me working allover didn't help,but it can work,it depends on the couple and their love,
good luck and enjoy life that's what it is for x
I was 19 and a Sr. in High School, she had just Graduated from College and was in her first year of teaching. We became friends, I was her teachers aid.
I went off to college where her brother was going. We would all three get together for cokes etc....then we just kinda started dating, and one thing led to another.
I was 23 and he was 26. I know some young relationships work out, but usually they just end up being puppy love, not true love. You have to know yourself and love yourself before you can be with someone else and have a good relationship.
I was 19, he was 25 and were together 2.5 years when we got married.
We weren't very clingy or attached and there were a lot of adjusting at first, but things settled and we have a great relationship. :)
I was 23. He was 27. We were engaged within 6 months and married shortly after. I'd say we have a fairly ';normal'; relationship.
We were 23 and yes we had an instant connection when we met and became good friends for a while, when we finally started dating we were inseparable
I was 16 and she was 15, in the beginning we gave each other space, but we maintained a balance between us and our friends, 17 years later, still going strong
I was 15 and he was 17 when we met started dating about a year after that got married at 21 and 23
I met my fiance when I was 16 and we started dating when I was 17 and he was 23. I'm now 19 and he's 25. We are getting married next year!
i was 32 and she was 26.
I was 17 and he was 16 and we have been together for 10 years and have been married for 3. We have a good relationship. We was in school so we got to see each other everyday and we moved in together after school. We was very happy and just had a few fights. I hope everything goes good.How old were you when you and your spouse got together?
she was 14 and i was 15 ,it was great we spent lots of time together and moved in together at 16, had our son at 18 and daughter at 22,
no its not all plain sailing its hard work and ill tell you this its worth it,
but it doesn't work out all the time,my son is just turning 21 and my daughter 16 and we have separated,
i don't want to put you off we had a Great life together all the 4 of us and we still talk and i stay there when im back in the country,but we just grew apart and me working allover didn't help,but it can work,it depends on the couple and their love,
good luck and enjoy life that's what it is for x
I was 19 and a Sr. in High School, she had just Graduated from College and was in her first year of teaching. We became friends, I was her teachers aid.
I went off to college where her brother was going. We would all three get together for cokes etc....then we just kinda started dating, and one thing led to another.
I was 23 and he was 26. I know some young relationships work out, but usually they just end up being puppy love, not true love. You have to know yourself and love yourself before you can be with someone else and have a good relationship.
I was 19, he was 25 and were together 2.5 years when we got married.
We weren't very clingy or attached and there were a lot of adjusting at first, but things settled and we have a great relationship. :)
I was 23. He was 27. We were engaged within 6 months and married shortly after. I'd say we have a fairly ';normal'; relationship.
We were 23 and yes we had an instant connection when we met and became good friends for a while, when we finally started dating we were inseparable
I was 16 and she was 15, in the beginning we gave each other space, but we maintained a balance between us and our friends, 17 years later, still going strong
I was 15 and he was 17 when we met started dating about a year after that got married at 21 and 23
I met my fiance when I was 16 and we started dating when I was 17 and he was 23. I'm now 19 and he's 25. We are getting married next year!
i was 32 and she was 26.
Do you ever daydream about sex with your spouse?
How long have you been married, and what about them/your relationship makes you daydream or not daydream?Do you ever daydream about sex with your spouse?
I have been in my relationship for 25 years and Yes i still Day dream about sexual act we have performed. I think that it is amazing to still have that! Although i cant speak for her she may not day dream about me at all LOLDo you ever daydream about sex with your spouse?
Yes. Married 10 years. I day dream about it all the time. I talk dirty on the phone to her while Im at work and we plan special little outings to do it in strange and unusual places. We have sex at least 3 to 4 times a week. Its great.
All the time. Been married almost 7 years and I'm 58 years old. Life is good with my wife all the time. We've raised our kids and have everything to ourselves. Now is the time to party.
Married 31 years and I don't have to daydream, it's and on going thing in this relationship.. We haven't missed to many days during our marriage. We're both 49 years old and still going strong.
Married almost 22 years.
I do daydream about sex when he is out of town and I am missing him, but like to have the real thing as often as possible when he is here.
I daydream all the time because in reality, our sex life has become almost non-existent. Married only 2 years! And before married we had a great sex life.
25 years. I sometimes day dream with her. But our sexual relationship is very straight, so in my dreams I can think of more.
**** SWEET MILDRED IS MY LEADER.JOIN US IN THE PLAYPEN***
I've been married 18 years.
I have more sex with my wife in daydreams than in real life.
Funny to read this right now....but last night i keep dreaming about my hubby having sex together and i woke up around 6:30 am so i made that dream real ...and he loved it ...lol. Happy tuesday!
I have day dreamed about it for 45 years , she has never liked making love.
15 yrs, nothing, it is stagnate
I have been in my relationship for 25 years and Yes i still Day dream about sexual act we have performed. I think that it is amazing to still have that! Although i cant speak for her she may not day dream about me at all LOLDo you ever daydream about sex with your spouse?
Yes. Married 10 years. I day dream about it all the time. I talk dirty on the phone to her while Im at work and we plan special little outings to do it in strange and unusual places. We have sex at least 3 to 4 times a week. Its great.
All the time. Been married almost 7 years and I'm 58 years old. Life is good with my wife all the time. We've raised our kids and have everything to ourselves. Now is the time to party.
Married 31 years and I don't have to daydream, it's and on going thing in this relationship.. We haven't missed to many days during our marriage. We're both 49 years old and still going strong.
Married almost 22 years.
I do daydream about sex when he is out of town and I am missing him, but like to have the real thing as often as possible when he is here.
I daydream all the time because in reality, our sex life has become almost non-existent. Married only 2 years! And before married we had a great sex life.
25 years. I sometimes day dream with her. But our sexual relationship is very straight, so in my dreams I can think of more.
**** SWEET MILDRED IS MY LEADER.JOIN US IN THE PLAYPEN***
I've been married 18 years.
I have more sex with my wife in daydreams than in real life.
Funny to read this right now....but last night i keep dreaming about my hubby having sex together and i woke up around 6:30 am so i made that dream real ...and he loved it ...lol. Happy tuesday!
I have day dreamed about it for 45 years , she has never liked making love.
15 yrs, nothing, it is stagnate
Can Military spouse under 25 still rent car with military ID?
I'm going on a trip and am under 25 and need a car rental. I know that the under 25 rule is waived for military, but I am a spouse. Will I be able to use my husbands discount w/o him there?Can Military spouse under 25 still rent car with military ID?
you can use the military discount, but the age requirement is only waived with orders, but check the state you're going to. where i live you only have to be 21 to rent a car.Can Military spouse under 25 still rent car with military ID?
Thanks, but I found that if you sign with USAA the fee is waived at Avis, and Budget.
Not usually. The Rental Car company's rental policy still applies. This is true for the active duty spouse as well unless the individual is on military travel orders - even then it depends on the rental car company policy.
I asked about this once. The rental car agent told me that it is associated to the type of insurance that rental car companies carry.
Be patient, you will be 25 soon enough. When that happens, you will miss being turned down as you get older and older and older.
Lieutenant Colonel, US Marine Corps-Retired
My fiance is a Marine and it depends on where you rent. If you are on ';work business';, you can get more discounts. You will also probably end up paying a fee for being under 25 but you can at some places, rent a car. But like I said they tack on a couple extra fees even if you are military.
Yes, you can still utilize the military discount. You are a military dependent.
However, they probably will still hold you to the restrictions of age for rental.
Nope my husband is Active and he still cant. I have to do it for him.. BUT if there is a place called rent a wreck near you the the age limit is 18
depends on the company. some will extend the courtesy to spouses, some will not.
No you have to be 25 to rent a car. The military has nothing to do with it.
Its pending the company you rent from ... Liability. If you have a USAA account you really can get a rental car cheap
you can use the military discount, but the age requirement is only waived with orders, but check the state you're going to. where i live you only have to be 21 to rent a car.Can Military spouse under 25 still rent car with military ID?
Thanks, but I found that if you sign with USAA the fee is waived at Avis, and Budget.
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Not usually. The Rental Car company's rental policy still applies. This is true for the active duty spouse as well unless the individual is on military travel orders - even then it depends on the rental car company policy.
I asked about this once. The rental car agent told me that it is associated to the type of insurance that rental car companies carry.
Be patient, you will be 25 soon enough. When that happens, you will miss being turned down as you get older and older and older.
Lieutenant Colonel, US Marine Corps-Retired
My fiance is a Marine and it depends on where you rent. If you are on ';work business';, you can get more discounts. You will also probably end up paying a fee for being under 25 but you can at some places, rent a car. But like I said they tack on a couple extra fees even if you are military.
Yes, you can still utilize the military discount. You are a military dependent.
However, they probably will still hold you to the restrictions of age for rental.
Nope my husband is Active and he still cant. I have to do it for him.. BUT if there is a place called rent a wreck near you the the age limit is 18
depends on the company. some will extend the courtesy to spouses, some will not.
No you have to be 25 to rent a car. The military has nothing to do with it.
Its pending the company you rent from ... Liability. If you have a USAA account you really can get a rental car cheap
If your spouse dies are you still responsible for credit debt ?
My care was under my husbands name but he recently died. Do I still have to pay for the car ?If your spouse dies are you still responsible for credit debt ?
Yes you are........If your spouse dies are you still responsible for credit debt ?
Your spouse's estate is responsible for paying outstanding debts before any assets are passed to heirs. You should have contacted a probate attorney to deal with his estate.
In any case, you will not be able to keepthe car and not pay for it. It is very likely that the loan company will be more than willing to transfer the loan to your name and let you pay the rest of the payments. If you can't afford the payments, plan on giving the car back.
Yes, I think that you are still responsible for his debt. Most states have ';community property.'; That means that you and your spouse share property and, unfortunately, bills.
If your spouse dies and has debts they will take the assets away that were in his name to cover the debts, but I don't believe that they can take it away if it is in your name but I am not sure. sorry to hear of your loss.
yup, when you are married it's equal. Your debt is his debt, his debt is your debt from the time you are married . His estate will be responsible for paying the money he owes on loans and whatnot.
Yes you are........If your spouse dies are you still responsible for credit debt ?
Your spouse's estate is responsible for paying outstanding debts before any assets are passed to heirs. You should have contacted a probate attorney to deal with his estate.
In any case, you will not be able to keepthe car and not pay for it. It is very likely that the loan company will be more than willing to transfer the loan to your name and let you pay the rest of the payments. If you can't afford the payments, plan on giving the car back.
Yes, I think that you are still responsible for his debt. Most states have ';community property.'; That means that you and your spouse share property and, unfortunately, bills.
If your spouse dies and has debts they will take the assets away that were in his name to cover the debts, but I don't believe that they can take it away if it is in your name but I am not sure. sorry to hear of your loss.
yup, when you are married it's equal. Your debt is his debt, his debt is your debt from the time you are married . His estate will be responsible for paying the money he owes on loans and whatnot.
Can a permanent resident in canada sponsor a spouse living in the US without legal status?
NO !!!!!!!!!!!!
Deport illegals, and keep the dream alive.Can a permanent resident in canada sponsor a spouse living in the US without legal status?
I am not sure what your question means but if you can make her leagle in Canada she will be leagal in the US. I hope that helpsCan a permanent resident in canada sponsor a spouse living in the US without legal status?
NO the applicant MUST have legal status wherever they are currently residing.
If they are currently illegal, the application will be denied. If he has overstayed his vis, he better do something about getting back into legal status ASAP.
IF he tries to leave USA to enter Canada, he may be deported back to his own country of origin, NOT to wherever he wants to go (ie Canada).
Because of the illegal status, doubtful.
Deport illegals, and keep the dream alive.Can a permanent resident in canada sponsor a spouse living in the US without legal status?
I am not sure what your question means but if you can make her leagle in Canada she will be leagal in the US. I hope that helpsCan a permanent resident in canada sponsor a spouse living in the US without legal status?
NO the applicant MUST have legal status wherever they are currently residing.
If they are currently illegal, the application will be denied. If he has overstayed his vis, he better do something about getting back into legal status ASAP.
IF he tries to leave USA to enter Canada, he may be deported back to his own country of origin, NOT to wherever he wants to go (ie Canada).
Because of the illegal status, doubtful.
Death of Spouse what is there Estate to pay off credit card debts?
If your spouse dies with a ton of debt and you basically have a lot of stuff but nothing worth any real money how does the courts ect. determine what is the dead spouses estate to sell to pay off the debts? Basically how is the dead spouses estate determined? Anyone with expericene would be greatly appreciated.Death of Spouse what is there Estate to pay off credit card debts?
If there are no real assets, you probably wouldn't need to probate the estate -- the courts wouldn't be involved.
The creditors would have to write off the debts. Send a cover letter saying there is not estate and no money to pay the debts. Enclose a photocopy of the death cerificate -- they don't need an original certified copy (those cost $10+).
Most creditors won't be heard from again. A few credit card companies are more aggressive and will try to collect from family members, insisting that you are responsible for the debt. Don't talk to them on the phone. Just send them another letter and death certificate.Death of Spouse what is there Estate to pay off credit card debts?
A spouses debt is your debt. They will still expect payment from you unless you had life insurance on those bills.rosacea anti wrinkle cream
If there are no real assets, you probably wouldn't need to probate the estate -- the courts wouldn't be involved.
The creditors would have to write off the debts. Send a cover letter saying there is not estate and no money to pay the debts. Enclose a photocopy of the death cerificate -- they don't need an original certified copy (those cost $10+).
Most creditors won't be heard from again. A few credit card companies are more aggressive and will try to collect from family members, insisting that you are responsible for the debt. Don't talk to them on the phone. Just send them another letter and death certificate.Death of Spouse what is there Estate to pay off credit card debts?
A spouses debt is your debt. They will still expect payment from you unless you had life insurance on those bills.
Is surviving spouse entitled to pension benefits if employee dies before retiring?
Employee is fully vested in company pension plan, but has not retired yet. If he dies before retiring, will his wife get any of his pension? I tend to think not. Social security, yes, as well as life insurance, not sure about pension though.Is surviving spouse entitled to pension benefits if employee dies before retiring?
For married individuals, the law (ERISA) requires that a spouse be the primary beneficiary of an employer-sponsored retirement plan unless he or she waives that right in writing. So unless the wife has signed a waiver, she will get his 401k assets. (I assume that's what you're talking about, not a defined benefit pension plan.)
Social Security: a surviving spouse over 60 can take the employee's retirement benefit if it is higher than her own earned benefit.
Life insurance passes by beneficiary form. If the wife was named beneficiary of the insurance, she will get it. If the estate is the default, the insurance will pass thru probate and will be handled according to the terms of the will, or state laws of intestacy if no will. Bottom line is that she will probably eventually get it.Is surviving spouse entitled to pension benefits if employee dies before retiring?
It depends on the plan, but generally yes. There is always some vested value in the pension plan and that would go to the beneficiary designated on the employee's enrollment form.
Depends upon the plan.
Many companies pension programs do pay the surviving spouse for their lifetime, as long as they never remarry.
For married individuals, the law (ERISA) requires that a spouse be the primary beneficiary of an employer-sponsored retirement plan unless he or she waives that right in writing. So unless the wife has signed a waiver, she will get his 401k assets. (I assume that's what you're talking about, not a defined benefit pension plan.)
Social Security: a surviving spouse over 60 can take the employee's retirement benefit if it is higher than her own earned benefit.
Life insurance passes by beneficiary form. If the wife was named beneficiary of the insurance, she will get it. If the estate is the default, the insurance will pass thru probate and will be handled according to the terms of the will, or state laws of intestacy if no will. Bottom line is that she will probably eventually get it.Is surviving spouse entitled to pension benefits if employee dies before retiring?
It depends on the plan, but generally yes. There is always some vested value in the pension plan and that would go to the beneficiary designated on the employee's enrollment form.
Depends upon the plan.
Many companies pension programs do pay the surviving spouse for their lifetime, as long as they never remarry.
Can someone translate a letter for me from Turkish to English to catch my cheating spouse!?
Its a bit long but if someone would take the time to translate I would be so grateful. This will confirm whether my husband is a cheater which I think he is.Can someone translate a letter for me from Turkish to English to catch my cheating spouse!?
i am Turkish i can try help you:) but i dont have a great english:(
xxCan someone translate a letter for me from Turkish to English to catch my cheating spouse!?
i'm a native Turkish and advanced English speaker (for more than 10 years), i would like to help you, you can send the text to me via e.mail. my e.mail address is: oscarwilde_87@yahoo.com
I would be happy to! Just add more information to the question with the letter and I will translate it right away
i am Turkish i can try help you:) but i dont have a great english:(
xxCan someone translate a letter for me from Turkish to English to catch my cheating spouse!?
i'm a native Turkish and advanced English speaker (for more than 10 years), i would like to help you, you can send the text to me via e.mail. my e.mail address is: oscarwilde_87@yahoo.com
I would be happy to! Just add more information to the question with the letter and I will translate it right away
My friends spouse removed all the contents from the family home prior to any separation agreement.
My friend, a male, is currently living in what was their family home and his soon-to-be ex has moved back in with her family. Recently, while he was away, she removed every single item that wasn't nailed down from the house, down to the last spoon. They are currently going through the courts but proceedings have only started. what steps can he take to get the items returned as soon as possible pending a division of property decision from the court? we live in ireland. thanks in advance..My friends spouse removed all the contents from the family home prior to any separation agreement.
Not real sure what the laws are in Ireland,but I would talk to a lawyer,and ask him/her what can be done.I would think that nothing belongs to anyone if the court proceedings have just started,hope this helped,and good luck to your friend..and please remind him...STAY AWAY FROM SELFISH WOMEN..THEY ARE EVERYWHERE!!!
Not real sure what the laws are in Ireland,but I would talk to a lawyer,and ask him/her what can be done.I would think that nothing belongs to anyone if the court proceedings have just started,hope this helped,and good luck to your friend..and please remind him...STAY AWAY FROM SELFISH WOMEN..THEY ARE EVERYWHERE!!!
Can someone living in the uk on a spouse visa travel for hols to Northern ireland without any restrictions?
Hi I am married to an indian national who is living with me in the uk on a spouse visa. Can they travel with me for hols to Northern Ireland without restrictions or special visa's, etc?Can someone living in the uk on a spouse visa travel for hols to Northern ireland without any restrictions?
A visa is an authorization to enter the territory of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland for a limited period.
If it states ';UNITED KINGDOM'; in the valid for column they'll be good to go to Northern Ireland, too. The visa however would not authorize to enter the territory of the Republic of Ireland although there are no border controls.
Source(s):
http://www.consilium.europa.eu/prado/EN/鈥?/a>
Can someone living in the uk on a spouse visa travel for hols to Northern ireland without any restrictions?
It seems reasonable that as NI is part of the United Kingdom, they could travel with you or independently within the UK. You might want to check with UK Border Agency http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk who should be able to clarify any restrictions covered by the visa.
Don't see why not as Northern Ireland is classed as part of the UK.
A visa is an authorization to enter the territory of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland for a limited period.
If it states ';UNITED KINGDOM'; in the valid for column they'll be good to go to Northern Ireland, too. The visa however would not authorize to enter the territory of the Republic of Ireland although there are no border controls.
Source(s):
http://www.consilium.europa.eu/prado/EN/鈥?/a>
Can someone living in the uk on a spouse visa travel for hols to Northern ireland without any restrictions?
It seems reasonable that as NI is part of the United Kingdom, they could travel with you or independently within the UK. You might want to check with UK Border Agency http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk who should be able to clarify any restrictions covered by the visa.
Don't see why not as Northern Ireland is classed as part of the UK.
If the seller of a property is a spouse of your mortgage broker, is this a conflict of interest?
I'm interested in a townhouse where the seller will only pay my closing costs if I go through her husband who is a mortgage broker. He's listed as the ';preferred lender'; Is this on the up-and-up? He says he'll give me as good a deal as any of my pre-approval offers.If the seller of a property is a spouse of your mortgage broker, is this a conflict of interest?
Just as long as the relationship is disclosed, then there is no real conflict. Shop her husband along with a couple others to see what their fees, closing costs, etc. are and then make your choice.
That husband may or may not be out of the ballpark, then your decision may become easier.
Good luck.If the seller of a property is a spouse of your mortgage broker, is this a conflict of interest?
I would say that yes it is a conflict of interest, however if it can be proven that they will give you a better rate than anybody else, I say go for it. I assume they represent a real and viable financial insitution when they quote.
Why ever use the ';preferred lender'; without verifying the are offering you the absolute best deal?
They aren't hiding it from you. Also a conflict would be if they were related to the inspector.
It's really not an issue as long as the property title is clear and the relationship status is disclosed. Do some background checks if you need to but then choose what meets your requirements the best, irrespective of relationships.
all bets are off at closing time. new papers have more money needed at closing.
No, can actually serve to your benefit.
broker makes more on the transaction so will lean toward your bid.
Also mortgage broker is incented to provide a better loan so you can pay more for the house
Where it may hurt you is if your credit is bad. the mortgage broker can leak that to the real estate broker which may damage your position
http://www.1031reviews.com
I really would not want the lender who is related to the seller having all of my personal financial information. I would prefer my own lender and a separate seller. If they are married, isnt he the seller as well? Everything could be on the up and up, but who knows.rosacea anti wrinkle cream
Just as long as the relationship is disclosed, then there is no real conflict. Shop her husband along with a couple others to see what their fees, closing costs, etc. are and then make your choice.
That husband may or may not be out of the ballpark, then your decision may become easier.
Good luck.If the seller of a property is a spouse of your mortgage broker, is this a conflict of interest?
I would say that yes it is a conflict of interest, however if it can be proven that they will give you a better rate than anybody else, I say go for it. I assume they represent a real and viable financial insitution when they quote.
Why ever use the ';preferred lender'; without verifying the are offering you the absolute best deal?
They aren't hiding it from you. Also a conflict would be if they were related to the inspector.
It's really not an issue as long as the property title is clear and the relationship status is disclosed. Do some background checks if you need to but then choose what meets your requirements the best, irrespective of relationships.
all bets are off at closing time. new papers have more money needed at closing.
No, can actually serve to your benefit.
broker makes more on the transaction so will lean toward your bid.
Also mortgage broker is incented to provide a better loan so you can pay more for the house
Where it may hurt you is if your credit is bad. the mortgage broker can leak that to the real estate broker which may damage your position
http://www.1031reviews.com
I really would not want the lender who is related to the seller having all of my personal financial information. I would prefer my own lender and a separate seller. If they are married, isnt he the seller as well? Everything could be on the up and up, but who knows.
Can someone translate a letter for me from Turkish to English to catch my cheating spouse!?
Its a bit long but if someone would take the time to translate I would be so grateful. This will confirm whether my husband is a cheater which I think he is.Can someone translate a letter for me from Turkish to English to catch my cheating spouse!?
i am Turkish i can try help you:) but i dont have a great english:(
xxCan someone translate a letter for me from Turkish to English to catch my cheating spouse!?
i'm a native Turkish and advanced English speaker (for more than 10 years), i would like to help you, you can send the text to me via e.mail. my e.mail address is: oscarwilde_87@yahoo.com
I would be happy to! Just add more information to the question with the letter and I will translate it right away
i am Turkish i can try help you:) but i dont have a great english:(
xxCan someone translate a letter for me from Turkish to English to catch my cheating spouse!?
i'm a native Turkish and advanced English speaker (for more than 10 years), i would like to help you, you can send the text to me via e.mail. my e.mail address is: oscarwilde_87@yahoo.com
I would be happy to! Just add more information to the question with the letter and I will translate it right away
My friends spouse removed all the contents from the family home prior to any separation agreement.
My friend, a male, is currently living in what was their family home and his soon-to-be ex has moved back in with her family. Recently, while he was away, she removed every single item that wasn't nailed down from the house, down to the last spoon. They are currently going through the courts but proceedings have only started. what steps can he take to get the items returned as soon as possible pending a division of property decision from the court? we live in ireland. thanks in advance..My friends spouse removed all the contents from the family home prior to any separation agreement.
Not real sure what the laws are in Ireland,but I would talk to a lawyer,and ask him/her what can be done.I would think that nothing belongs to anyone if the court proceedings have just started,hope this helped,and good luck to your friend..and please remind him...STAY AWAY FROM SELFISH WOMEN..THEY ARE EVERYWHERE!!!
Not real sure what the laws are in Ireland,but I would talk to a lawyer,and ask him/her what can be done.I would think that nothing belongs to anyone if the court proceedings have just started,hope this helped,and good luck to your friend..and please remind him...STAY AWAY FROM SELFISH WOMEN..THEY ARE EVERYWHERE!!!
Can someone living in the uk on a spouse visa travel for hols to Northern ireland without any restrictions?
Hi I am married to an indian national who is living with me in the uk on a spouse visa. Can they travel with me for hols to Northern Ireland without restrictions or special visa's, etc?Can someone living in the uk on a spouse visa travel for hols to Northern ireland without any restrictions?
A visa is an authorization to enter the territory of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland for a limited period.
If it states ';UNITED KINGDOM'; in the valid for column they'll be good to go to Northern Ireland, too. The visa however would not authorize to enter the territory of the Republic of Ireland although there are no border controls.
Source(s):
http://www.consilium.europa.eu/prado/EN/鈥?/a>
Can someone living in the uk on a spouse visa travel for hols to Northern ireland without any restrictions?
It seems reasonable that as NI is part of the United Kingdom, they could travel with you or independently within the UK. You might want to check with UK Border Agency http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk who should be able to clarify any restrictions covered by the visa.
Don't see why not as Northern Ireland is classed as part of the UK.
A visa is an authorization to enter the territory of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland for a limited period.
If it states ';UNITED KINGDOM'; in the valid for column they'll be good to go to Northern Ireland, too. The visa however would not authorize to enter the territory of the Republic of Ireland although there are no border controls.
Source(s):
http://www.consilium.europa.eu/prado/EN/鈥?/a>
Can someone living in the uk on a spouse visa travel for hols to Northern ireland without any restrictions?
It seems reasonable that as NI is part of the United Kingdom, they could travel with you or independently within the UK. You might want to check with UK Border Agency http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk who should be able to clarify any restrictions covered by the visa.
Don't see why not as Northern Ireland is classed as part of the UK.
If the seller of a property is a spouse of your mortgage broker, is this a conflict of interest?
I'm interested in a townhouse where the seller will only pay my closing costs if I go through her husband who is a mortgage broker. He's listed as the ';preferred lender'; Is this on the up-and-up? He says he'll give me as good a deal as any of my pre-approval offers.If the seller of a property is a spouse of your mortgage broker, is this a conflict of interest?
Just as long as the relationship is disclosed, then there is no real conflict. Shop her husband along with a couple others to see what their fees, closing costs, etc. are and then make your choice.
That husband may or may not be out of the ballpark, then your decision may become easier.
Good luck.If the seller of a property is a spouse of your mortgage broker, is this a conflict of interest?
I would say that yes it is a conflict of interest, however if it can be proven that they will give you a better rate than anybody else, I say go for it. I assume they represent a real and viable financial insitution when they quote.
Why ever use the ';preferred lender'; without verifying the are offering you the absolute best deal?
They aren't hiding it from you. Also a conflict would be if they were related to the inspector.
It's really not an issue as long as the property title is clear and the relationship status is disclosed. Do some background checks if you need to but then choose what meets your requirements the best, irrespective of relationships.
all bets are off at closing time. new papers have more money needed at closing.
No, can actually serve to your benefit.
broker makes more on the transaction so will lean toward your bid.
Also mortgage broker is incented to provide a better loan so you can pay more for the house
Where it may hurt you is if your credit is bad. the mortgage broker can leak that to the real estate broker which may damage your position
http://www.1031reviews.com
I really would not want the lender who is related to the seller having all of my personal financial information. I would prefer my own lender and a separate seller. If they are married, isnt he the seller as well? Everything could be on the up and up, but who knows.
Just as long as the relationship is disclosed, then there is no real conflict. Shop her husband along with a couple others to see what their fees, closing costs, etc. are and then make your choice.
That husband may or may not be out of the ballpark, then your decision may become easier.
Good luck.If the seller of a property is a spouse of your mortgage broker, is this a conflict of interest?
I would say that yes it is a conflict of interest, however if it can be proven that they will give you a better rate than anybody else, I say go for it. I assume they represent a real and viable financial insitution when they quote.
Why ever use the ';preferred lender'; without verifying the are offering you the absolute best deal?
They aren't hiding it from you. Also a conflict would be if they were related to the inspector.
It's really not an issue as long as the property title is clear and the relationship status is disclosed. Do some background checks if you need to but then choose what meets your requirements the best, irrespective of relationships.
all bets are off at closing time. new papers have more money needed at closing.
No, can actually serve to your benefit.
broker makes more on the transaction so will lean toward your bid.
Also mortgage broker is incented to provide a better loan so you can pay more for the house
Where it may hurt you is if your credit is bad. the mortgage broker can leak that to the real estate broker which may damage your position
http://www.1031reviews.com
I really would not want the lender who is related to the seller having all of my personal financial information. I would prefer my own lender and a separate seller. If they are married, isnt he the seller as well? Everything could be on the up and up, but who knows.
How to you begin a friendship with your spouse's ex-wife?
I do know she can be very unfriendly and unstable. I know I have to communicate with her. There are kids involved, but geeeez. Where do I begin?How to you begin a friendship with your spouse's ex-wife?
Keep it simple. This isn't a perfect world where you can have a friendship with the ex-wife. It would be nice, but it doesn't always happen the way you would like it, especially when there are kids involved. I am going through the same issue now. I give respect to the ex-wife and the children, but I give nothing else towards the ex-wife but treat the children as my own when they are in my house. Be simple...talk to her about things that involve the children, but not your own personal life.How to you begin a friendship with your spouse's ex-wife?
You stole her man. She will curse you with your last breath the same way you will curse the woman who takes him from you. You should not expect her to get over this.
Great Question! I have a wonderful relationship with my ex husband's wife, but it took alot of work, patience %26amp; time. At the beginning it was always bitter %26amp; a bit of jealousy from both of us, but we just continued to communicate, regarding the kids %26amp; involving each other in having joint birthday parties instead of seperate. WE now talk to each other freely (not best friends) but the kids are secure talking with either of us, they never feel disloyal %26amp; I feel it is the best for all of us!
Good luck!
First, I am sorry about some of the answers you received. The kids do like to play on here.
As for the question, I am in the same boat. My husband and his ex-wife were divorced eight years when we met and she left him. She refuses to even try to get along with me. She wanted my husband to pine away for her until his dying day and never marry again. I was told that by someone very close to her. She is mean and vile. I am sorry there is a child involved, or I would never speak to her at all.
Now for the advice, give up. I tried for a long time to be friends or to just be friendly. It never worked. A person can only do so much and then they have to give up. Make sure the child never hears you speak ill about their mother and make sure the child knows you have tried many times to have a semi-friendly relationship with their mother.
I am sorry you are going through this and it can be like walking Through a minefield when dealing with an ex-wife or ex-husband.
This is a tough issue, I am going through it myself. Try to look at it from their perspective. Don't sweat the small stuff and never ever raise your voice. I do most of my stuff via a letter, it documents all conversations involving kids school, doctor/dental appts, playmates.... You can say more in a letter to get your point across.
I would let her know my feelings and tell her on a one on one basis. Ask could you two one day get together and talk. Tell her that it concerns the children and set up a date. Ask her what type of restaurant she likes to eat lunch at and discuss the situation at lunch. If she declines, ask her when she think is a good time to talk and you prefer a face to face conversation and your children deserve that much from you and her. Another suggestion is after dropping the kids off at school, you could sit down to breakfast to talk. These approaches will show that you are mateur enough to handle the situation. If she still decline to talk to you, then you did all you can and communicate only through their father. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. If all else fails, express your desire to talk to her with your husband. This way he will see that you are only acting like the adult you are in this situation.
The 1st thing to do is send her a plant with a note in it asking for her to meet you for lunch or something you think she will be able to attend (just the 2 of you). If she accepts talk about the kids in a respectful manner; dont bring up anything negative about the kids. If she starts to insult your husband, or actually brings up anything about your husband get out of that conversation quick! She may never be a friend to you so accept that now. The only thing you 2 should talk about is the kids and maybe the weather etc. You want her to know that you a good person and the kids could be trusted with you. In time IF you are both resonable with eachother then something can possibly arise from it. But why would you want a friendship with the one person your husband used to be married to? It can cause problems with you and your spouse.
Take the time to talk to her, let her talk. DO NOT commiserate on bad things about the kids or dh. Call her out of the blue and ask her something general. Invite her to go somewhere with YOU and the kids..not dh. Hang in there mom! Good girl for stepping up. Remember, she may not be receptive if she misses your dh or really hates him. kwim?
I would say keep the relationship simple. Treat her and the children with respect. Be cordial when you encounter each other. Don't go overboard trying to establish a friendship. The relationship will come together in due time.
Just tell her that you know it's not easy for her,but for the sake of the children couldn't the two of you at least be civial towards each other.You never know she may eventually learn to respect and like you.This is something that will take time.Good luck
to be friends is one thing to get along for the best interest of the kids is a whole other story. If you are thinking of her already as unfriendly and unstable than I don't think you meant the word friendship. Treat it as you would a business situation. They have lots of parenting classes that can give you step by step instructions on how to deal with this relationship. Stop by the kids school or a local church or courthouse and ask they should know how to get into one of these classes.
the best of british luck love, woman can be b*^';%26gt;@+ when it comes to the 2nd wife,and can turn the kids against you so again good luck
Why do you need a relationship with her? Have your husband talk to her-- it's his responsiblity. The kids are his and hers, not yours.
good luck :-)
I would suggest involving booze one way or another. Start by going out for drinks? Way to be the bigger person and reach out first. You're doing the right thing for the kids.
Always be respectful even if it isn't deserved and make sure that you respect her guidelines for the children when they are at your house. It may help to send a card or a letter to let her know your intentions as a part of this family and that you only want what is best for the kids.
Keep it simple. This isn't a perfect world where you can have a friendship with the ex-wife. It would be nice, but it doesn't always happen the way you would like it, especially when there are kids involved. I am going through the same issue now. I give respect to the ex-wife and the children, but I give nothing else towards the ex-wife but treat the children as my own when they are in my house. Be simple...talk to her about things that involve the children, but not your own personal life.How to you begin a friendship with your spouse's ex-wife?
You stole her man. She will curse you with your last breath the same way you will curse the woman who takes him from you. You should not expect her to get over this.
Great Question! I have a wonderful relationship with my ex husband's wife, but it took alot of work, patience %26amp; time. At the beginning it was always bitter %26amp; a bit of jealousy from both of us, but we just continued to communicate, regarding the kids %26amp; involving each other in having joint birthday parties instead of seperate. WE now talk to each other freely (not best friends) but the kids are secure talking with either of us, they never feel disloyal %26amp; I feel it is the best for all of us!
Good luck!
First, I am sorry about some of the answers you received. The kids do like to play on here.
As for the question, I am in the same boat. My husband and his ex-wife were divorced eight years when we met and she left him. She refuses to even try to get along with me. She wanted my husband to pine away for her until his dying day and never marry again. I was told that by someone very close to her. She is mean and vile. I am sorry there is a child involved, or I would never speak to her at all.
Now for the advice, give up. I tried for a long time to be friends or to just be friendly. It never worked. A person can only do so much and then they have to give up. Make sure the child never hears you speak ill about their mother and make sure the child knows you have tried many times to have a semi-friendly relationship with their mother.
I am sorry you are going through this and it can be like walking Through a minefield when dealing with an ex-wife or ex-husband.
This is a tough issue, I am going through it myself. Try to look at it from their perspective. Don't sweat the small stuff and never ever raise your voice. I do most of my stuff via a letter, it documents all conversations involving kids school, doctor/dental appts, playmates.... You can say more in a letter to get your point across.
I would let her know my feelings and tell her on a one on one basis. Ask could you two one day get together and talk. Tell her that it concerns the children and set up a date. Ask her what type of restaurant she likes to eat lunch at and discuss the situation at lunch. If she declines, ask her when she think is a good time to talk and you prefer a face to face conversation and your children deserve that much from you and her. Another suggestion is after dropping the kids off at school, you could sit down to breakfast to talk. These approaches will show that you are mateur enough to handle the situation. If she still decline to talk to you, then you did all you can and communicate only through their father. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. If all else fails, express your desire to talk to her with your husband. This way he will see that you are only acting like the adult you are in this situation.
The 1st thing to do is send her a plant with a note in it asking for her to meet you for lunch or something you think she will be able to attend (just the 2 of you). If she accepts talk about the kids in a respectful manner; dont bring up anything negative about the kids. If she starts to insult your husband, or actually brings up anything about your husband get out of that conversation quick! She may never be a friend to you so accept that now. The only thing you 2 should talk about is the kids and maybe the weather etc. You want her to know that you a good person and the kids could be trusted with you. In time IF you are both resonable with eachother then something can possibly arise from it. But why would you want a friendship with the one person your husband used to be married to? It can cause problems with you and your spouse.
Take the time to talk to her, let her talk. DO NOT commiserate on bad things about the kids or dh. Call her out of the blue and ask her something general. Invite her to go somewhere with YOU and the kids..not dh. Hang in there mom! Good girl for stepping up. Remember, she may not be receptive if she misses your dh or really hates him. kwim?
I would say keep the relationship simple. Treat her and the children with respect. Be cordial when you encounter each other. Don't go overboard trying to establish a friendship. The relationship will come together in due time.
Just tell her that you know it's not easy for her,but for the sake of the children couldn't the two of you at least be civial towards each other.You never know she may eventually learn to respect and like you.This is something that will take time.Good luck
to be friends is one thing to get along for the best interest of the kids is a whole other story. If you are thinking of her already as unfriendly and unstable than I don't think you meant the word friendship. Treat it as you would a business situation. They have lots of parenting classes that can give you step by step instructions on how to deal with this relationship. Stop by the kids school or a local church or courthouse and ask they should know how to get into one of these classes.
the best of british luck love, woman can be b*^';%26gt;@+ when it comes to the 2nd wife,and can turn the kids against you so again good luck
Why do you need a relationship with her? Have your husband talk to her-- it's his responsiblity. The kids are his and hers, not yours.
good luck :-)
I would suggest involving booze one way or another. Start by going out for drinks? Way to be the bigger person and reach out first. You're doing the right thing for the kids.
Always be respectful even if it isn't deserved and make sure that you respect her guidelines for the children when they are at your house. It may help to send a card or a letter to let her know your intentions as a part of this family and that you only want what is best for the kids.
Is a spouse being physically aggressive ever forgivable?
Or is it an automatic deal breaker? Do you see a difference between a spouse striking you outright, or just pushing you, or is it all the same? Have you ever hit your spouse in anger? What were the consequences? This is not me. I am taking a psych class, and was curious.Is a spouse being physically aggressive ever forgivable?
Totally unacceptable.Is a spouse being physically aggressive ever forgivable?
let me tell you from experience there is a biggg difference ... spousal abuse is something no one should experience but sadly it happens to the best of us ... the anger, the hitting, the handprint bruises on arms ... pushing in fun is one thing, but pushing in anger is something else and you would have to be a perfect moron not to see the difference ... anger pushing is much more forceful , into a wall or something .. consequences now are much different ..there are laws ... back in the 70's, there were no laws, you took it and lied ... i did many times ... when asked ..but people knew .. evientually i took my children and moved out, got a divorce and started over.. raised my children on my own ..and i survived but i knew i would never take it again .. and i haven't ... but it does play with your mind , always cautious and on guard.. afraid to get close for fear it will happen again in a rage and no one , should have to walk around on eggshells .... and lastly , NO it's never forgivable .... you may not dwell on it daily but you never forget or forgive ...
It starts with a push or shove and ends with the woman dead as a doorbell. Sorry but men who physically intimidate will always get worse. Once he thinks you are his to keep - he will escalate the abuse. Leave while you can. But be careful - when a woman breaks it off with this guy is the most dangerous time of all.
I grew up in an abusive home, seeing what my mother went through for so many years, and feeling what i did when i seen that If my husband ever hit me, it would be a done deal. No matter if it was a push, or a strike...it's all about respect. That would mean he has no respect for me at all, allowing him to do that means i wouldn't have any respect for myself..right? I would never hit my husband either. Same respect deal.
Yes, it is an automatic deal-breaker for me. Anyone who puts up with physical, mental, emotional or sexual abuse has incredibly low self-esteem and is frequently deluded about how they must remain in the relationship ';for the sake of the kids';. Who wants kids to grow up thinking any kind of abuse is OK?
I dunno - if it's something like a push in extreme rage, I might let him have three before I decide it's only going to get worse, then I'd leave him (and I'd let him know that).
If it was something like a punch, I'd leave immediately.
I hope, anyway. People make stupid decisions when they're in the early stages of love (that's oxycontin for you).
I KNOW I would leave them right away because chances are that its gonna get worse and worse...someone in my family was abused and they got out but it took time and years...so if anyone ever hit me pushed me or made me feel scare i would get away and never look back...
Never. Physical abuse is any kind of aggressive act. It always escalates.
Okay, are we talking about sado-masochism?
Because that is just good wholesome fun.rosacea anti wrinkle cream
Totally unacceptable.Is a spouse being physically aggressive ever forgivable?
let me tell you from experience there is a biggg difference ... spousal abuse is something no one should experience but sadly it happens to the best of us ... the anger, the hitting, the handprint bruises on arms ... pushing in fun is one thing, but pushing in anger is something else and you would have to be a perfect moron not to see the difference ... anger pushing is much more forceful , into a wall or something .. consequences now are much different ..there are laws ... back in the 70's, there were no laws, you took it and lied ... i did many times ... when asked ..but people knew .. evientually i took my children and moved out, got a divorce and started over.. raised my children on my own ..and i survived but i knew i would never take it again .. and i haven't ... but it does play with your mind , always cautious and on guard.. afraid to get close for fear it will happen again in a rage and no one , should have to walk around on eggshells .... and lastly , NO it's never forgivable .... you may not dwell on it daily but you never forget or forgive ...
It starts with a push or shove and ends with the woman dead as a doorbell. Sorry but men who physically intimidate will always get worse. Once he thinks you are his to keep - he will escalate the abuse. Leave while you can. But be careful - when a woman breaks it off with this guy is the most dangerous time of all.
I grew up in an abusive home, seeing what my mother went through for so many years, and feeling what i did when i seen that If my husband ever hit me, it would be a done deal. No matter if it was a push, or a strike...it's all about respect. That would mean he has no respect for me at all, allowing him to do that means i wouldn't have any respect for myself..right? I would never hit my husband either. Same respect deal.
Yes, it is an automatic deal-breaker for me. Anyone who puts up with physical, mental, emotional or sexual abuse has incredibly low self-esteem and is frequently deluded about how they must remain in the relationship ';for the sake of the kids';. Who wants kids to grow up thinking any kind of abuse is OK?
I dunno - if it's something like a push in extreme rage, I might let him have three before I decide it's only going to get worse, then I'd leave him (and I'd let him know that).
If it was something like a punch, I'd leave immediately.
I hope, anyway. People make stupid decisions when they're in the early stages of love (that's oxycontin for you).
I KNOW I would leave them right away because chances are that its gonna get worse and worse...someone in my family was abused and they got out but it took time and years...so if anyone ever hit me pushed me or made me feel scare i would get away and never look back...
Never. Physical abuse is any kind of aggressive act. It always escalates.
Okay, are we talking about sado-masochism?
Because that is just good wholesome fun.
How much home brew would you let your spouse make before you would think it is ';too much';?
My hobby is spiraling upward, I now have about 50 gallons of home made fruit wines and beer in process, either fermenting in buckets in the bathroom, or aging in 5-gallon bottles in the basement. My wife hasn't said anything yet, but I'm wondering when my cute hobby will become ';too much'; for her.
How much father would you let it go?How much home brew would you let your spouse make before you would think it is ';too much';?
Don't know if there can ever be too much. My husband was also a home brewer. This stuff needs to age so it's pretty normal to have a lot brew 'working' at one time. We also grow our own hops. Sounds really interesting ! What kinds of fruit wines do you make ? Do you have any meade ?How much home brew would you let your spouse make before you would think it is ';too much';?
Your wife seems oblivious to anything that has to do with you. Are you doing this brew thing to get her attention?
You have got to re-think your happiness. I know you want to stay together for the kids, but is it worth it? Your kids are learning about love by watching you and apparently there isn't anything to learn but coldness and no affection. Trust me, you are not doing your kids any favors.
It becomes too much when your hobby starts to encroach on time and space in a way that she's not happy about.
Good for you for at least being sensitive to the possibility. It improves the odds that you don't let it get out of hand.
However, rather than depending on a bunch of Yahoo!s, talk to your darling bride and let her know that you enjoy your hobby but you want to be respectful of her and your home, and don't want it to get out of hand. Ask her what she's comfortable with.
Salut!
To the legal limit...our state (CT) limits how much you can brew at home. I don't recall how much...but I'd put my foot down when storage becomes an issue (like I lose my laundry room to barrels of wine or something). OR Whatever the legal limit is for home brewing.
My wife helped me make beer. So that was awesome.
Where do you get your supplies from, the homebrew shop that was in town closed and I don't want to go to kansas.
Don't know, but my neighbor brews his own beer and it's quite tasty! Move next door to me and you won't have any problems, I'll help you keep the supply down.
who cares as youhave stated so many times before she doesn't give you any so make as much as you want then remember the fun part of DRINKING it
when you can not make the deliveries form the mini van it is time to cut production.
tmm
Dude, you need to chill out on your ';hobby';/obsession.
I'd buy a shed and confine it to there.
How much father would you let it go?How much home brew would you let your spouse make before you would think it is ';too much';?
Don't know if there can ever be too much. My husband was also a home brewer. This stuff needs to age so it's pretty normal to have a lot brew 'working' at one time. We also grow our own hops. Sounds really interesting ! What kinds of fruit wines do you make ? Do you have any meade ?How much home brew would you let your spouse make before you would think it is ';too much';?
Your wife seems oblivious to anything that has to do with you. Are you doing this brew thing to get her attention?
You have got to re-think your happiness. I know you want to stay together for the kids, but is it worth it? Your kids are learning about love by watching you and apparently there isn't anything to learn but coldness and no affection. Trust me, you are not doing your kids any favors.
It becomes too much when your hobby starts to encroach on time and space in a way that she's not happy about.
Good for you for at least being sensitive to the possibility. It improves the odds that you don't let it get out of hand.
However, rather than depending on a bunch of Yahoo!s, talk to your darling bride and let her know that you enjoy your hobby but you want to be respectful of her and your home, and don't want it to get out of hand. Ask her what she's comfortable with.
Salut!
To the legal limit...our state (CT) limits how much you can brew at home. I don't recall how much...but I'd put my foot down when storage becomes an issue (like I lose my laundry room to barrels of wine or something). OR Whatever the legal limit is for home brewing.
My wife helped me make beer. So that was awesome.
Where do you get your supplies from, the homebrew shop that was in town closed and I don't want to go to kansas.
Don't know, but my neighbor brews his own beer and it's quite tasty! Move next door to me and you won't have any problems, I'll help you keep the supply down.
who cares as youhave stated so many times before she doesn't give you any so make as much as you want then remember the fun part of DRINKING it
when you can not make the deliveries form the mini van it is time to cut production.
tmm
Dude, you need to chill out on your ';hobby';/obsession.
I'd buy a shed and confine it to there.
Would you impulsively disown the man who baptized your children and married you and your spouse over this?
Over a few shocking statements?
Put yourself in Obama's shoes. Be fair. Be reasonable. You would all have reacted the same way as Obama.Would you impulsively disown the man who baptized your children and married you and your spouse over this?
not on impluse...and since he knew all along what that creature was,why did he stay with him so long?...no..there is waaay too much baggage there...Obama scr*wed the pooch with this guyWould you impulsively disown the man who baptized your children and married you and your spouse over this?
The only reason Obama has denounced his pastor is because of the negative feedback he is getting from it. Just go to the church website and look at their beliefs and what they are about and then tell me that for 20 years of attending that Obama didn't know that this church was like this!
http://www.tucc.org/about.htm
Obama is a civil rights activist that wants Black Liberation and what better way to achieve his goals than become President! He just recieved an endorsement from the New Black Panther organization but says he don't want it. He was endorsed by Farakhan, Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton, etc.
Obama is a snake in the grass and can not be trusted. If he is the nominee for the democratic party then John Mccain will be our next President!
I would hope I'd be a better judge of character to begin with but I'm convinced it wouldn't take me 20 years to figure out my preacher is a anti-American racist.
No.
Considering his age, I would just ignore it like most younger generations do about older generations who have lived life in much different times.
I would have better judgment than associate with a pastor that is a bigot, and a self-proclaimed ';man of God'; that says, ';GOD D*MN AMERICA';
I wouldn't have this type of person indoctrinate my family with hate, and that is the choice of Obama over a 22 year period!
He is without excuse, and any defense of his preference is below common sense and stupidity.
I thought this was so ';last week';.
Why continue to defend Obama if he has done nothing wrong?
I personally wouldn't continue to go to the church.
I would also respectfully distance myself from the pastor.
If I didn't agree with what he said, yes.
Put yourself in Obama's shoes. Be fair. Be reasonable. You would all have reacted the same way as Obama.Would you impulsively disown the man who baptized your children and married you and your spouse over this?
not on impluse...and since he knew all along what that creature was,why did he stay with him so long?...no..there is waaay too much baggage there...Obama scr*wed the pooch with this guyWould you impulsively disown the man who baptized your children and married you and your spouse over this?
The only reason Obama has denounced his pastor is because of the negative feedback he is getting from it. Just go to the church website and look at their beliefs and what they are about and then tell me that for 20 years of attending that Obama didn't know that this church was like this!
http://www.tucc.org/about.htm
Obama is a civil rights activist that wants Black Liberation and what better way to achieve his goals than become President! He just recieved an endorsement from the New Black Panther organization but says he don't want it. He was endorsed by Farakhan, Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton, etc.
Obama is a snake in the grass and can not be trusted. If he is the nominee for the democratic party then John Mccain will be our next President!
I would hope I'd be a better judge of character to begin with but I'm convinced it wouldn't take me 20 years to figure out my preacher is a anti-American racist.
No.
Considering his age, I would just ignore it like most younger generations do about older generations who have lived life in much different times.
I would have better judgment than associate with a pastor that is a bigot, and a self-proclaimed ';man of God'; that says, ';GOD D*MN AMERICA';
I wouldn't have this type of person indoctrinate my family with hate, and that is the choice of Obama over a 22 year period!
He is without excuse, and any defense of his preference is below common sense and stupidity.
I thought this was so ';last week';.
Why continue to defend Obama if he has done nothing wrong?
I personally wouldn't continue to go to the church.
I would also respectfully distance myself from the pastor.
If I didn't agree with what he said, yes.
Husbands and wives, how do you handle a spouse who makes a unilateral decision that should have included you?
Even if it was a decision that both of you would have agreed upon, but you were just left out as if the spouse was giving the impression you were not needed any longer?
NO, This is NOT a problem with me and my wife! Just expounding on a good question that I answered earlier and just wondered how others handle it. Husbands and wives, how do you handle a spouse who makes a unilateral decision that should have included you?
Your question is pretty vague, it could mean so many things. If my husband made a decision that I felt should have included me I would talk to him about why he decided anything before consulting me about it. Depending on how he answered and if I thought it would be an on going problem would determine how the situation should be handled.
We share the decision making pretty equally. The big stuff we decide together and the smaller stuff we take turns. Only consulting each other if we can't make up our own mind. Deciding where to go for dinner can be a chore when you don't know what even sounds good to you... (just an example).Husbands and wives, how do you handle a spouse who makes a unilateral decision that should have included you?
You correct each other in private and let your spouse know that it is unacceptable to do this. Marriage is a partnership so decisions have to be made jointly. Not every decision. Decisions about how to do your job at work or how to do your job at home go to the people in charge of those but decisions will have an impact on the children, or their families or things that will effect each other should be discussed.
Depends on the decision. If it's about finances, the kids, etc., then I might be a little hurt or angry and probably sit them down and talk abotu it. However, if it's about what color to paint the living room or whether to throw out some old junk, it's really pretty trivial and I probably wouldn't think much of it.
it would depand on the level of importance if it was very importent me and my wife probley would have a agrument becouse i would be really pissed off at the time if it was not very important at all me and my wife would talk about it on civil level and it would not happen again for a long time afther all we are not all perfect i am sure it happens sometimes to everyone
That's debatable. I wouldn't tolerate that kind of underhanded behavior...but that's because I understand that some choices MUST be made together or it denigrates the marriage.
Counseling or separation.
That's never happened to us, and it better not either. We have respect for each other.
When I was married, I'd of voiced my opinion on my part in the decision making. I don't hold back! :-) May be it's why I've been divorced 21 years?? lol
a careing 'there there dear' and a pat on the head should do it
NO, This is NOT a problem with me and my wife! Just expounding on a good question that I answered earlier and just wondered how others handle it. Husbands and wives, how do you handle a spouse who makes a unilateral decision that should have included you?
Your question is pretty vague, it could mean so many things. If my husband made a decision that I felt should have included me I would talk to him about why he decided anything before consulting me about it. Depending on how he answered and if I thought it would be an on going problem would determine how the situation should be handled.
We share the decision making pretty equally. The big stuff we decide together and the smaller stuff we take turns. Only consulting each other if we can't make up our own mind. Deciding where to go for dinner can be a chore when you don't know what even sounds good to you... (just an example).Husbands and wives, how do you handle a spouse who makes a unilateral decision that should have included you?
You correct each other in private and let your spouse know that it is unacceptable to do this. Marriage is a partnership so decisions have to be made jointly. Not every decision. Decisions about how to do your job at work or how to do your job at home go to the people in charge of those but decisions will have an impact on the children, or their families or things that will effect each other should be discussed.
Depends on the decision. If it's about finances, the kids, etc., then I might be a little hurt or angry and probably sit them down and talk abotu it. However, if it's about what color to paint the living room or whether to throw out some old junk, it's really pretty trivial and I probably wouldn't think much of it.
it would depand on the level of importance if it was very importent me and my wife probley would have a agrument becouse i would be really pissed off at the time if it was not very important at all me and my wife would talk about it on civil level and it would not happen again for a long time afther all we are not all perfect i am sure it happens sometimes to everyone
That's debatable. I wouldn't tolerate that kind of underhanded behavior...but that's because I understand that some choices MUST be made together or it denigrates the marriage.
Counseling or separation.
That's never happened to us, and it better not either. We have respect for each other.
When I was married, I'd of voiced my opinion on my part in the decision making. I don't hold back! :-) May be it's why I've been divorced 21 years?? lol
a careing 'there there dear' and a pat on the head should do it
Has anyone confronted the partner of a cheating spouse?
I caught my wife having an affair, I have the persons name and phone number. I want to call and give him a piece of my mind. Tell him to stay away or else and that he is breaking up my family. He won't stop texting my wife and I want to punch his lights out. Any thoughts? I just don't want anything to backfire as I still love my wife and am willing to forgive her.Has anyone confronted the partner of a cheating spouse?
John, let me offer you this.
While I do very much appreciate your stance, let me ask you something. Have you ever known a man to have a woman which did not want him to have her? I think not. No, he is not breaking up your family, HE AND SHE ARE. Do not place the blame on him at least not any more blame then you place on her. She is no better then he is and she has it in her control to stop the texting and all else in a new york minute. She is not doing so. She did not say not and she is not saying stop now. Face that fact.
Now, maybe you feel that what happened is your fault or something. Okay, maybe you have been a scummy husband. But if you both decided to work it out, it requires her to do her part. And besides, being a scummy or ugly husband does not justify her cheating. Any women that says it does, you need simply to ask if they are just as willing to give a man a pass for cheating because the wife says no to sex often. Watch and see how rapidly women will circle the wagons and cover for one another and make it a personal thing.
Personally, I could care less if you broke the guys pelvis. It would not be seen by me as anything but what happens in spots like this. But let us not forget that he does not deserve that anymore then she does. Do not let her play you man. She is a cheat and you need to face it. He is no worse then she is and you need to come to grips with that fact. As I keep saying, one of the reasons women act as badly as they do is because they always seem to be able to play victim. If you let her do that, you have asked for what you get.Has anyone confronted the partner of a cheating spouse?
There was a woman in TX (lifetime made a movie about her) who confronted the mistress of her husband who took him away from her. She confronted her by means of a lawsuit using old TX laws about alienation of affection. That woman won the lawsuit branding that mistress wrong to steal a married man away. It was very interesting.
Dont confront the man she had the affair with. What could happen is that you lose control and kill him or injure him and end up in jail! Your wife and that man is not worth you going to jail!
Your wife is whom you need to speak with. You need to ask her if the affair is over and if she loves you. If she doesnt love you and it isnt over then divorce her because you deserve better.
Change your phone numbers. Tell him that according to law if you have sex with a married woman it is a crime. And if he insists on calling her when she wants it to stop then you will get a restraining order and have him charged with adultry (both a married person and the single person that has sex with a known married person are in trouble according to law).
It takes 2. Your wife said she ';would'; break it off..... It does not sound very promising at all. You could go punch the crap out of him but he is not the one who was in the marriage and broke your trust, your wife did. If she really meant that she wanted it over she would change her number, email, any means of him being able to contact her but it does not seem that way. Honestly the best thing you could do is kick her out and move on with your life. Do not forgive her straight away because she will do it again. She needs to know what she has lost because of a bit of sex with another guy. If down the track (month or year) you forgive her then that is your decision but you need to distant yourself from her for a little while because if she does not have it out of her system she will cheat again
He's not the one responsible for breaking up your family. If your family is broken apart it is because your wife made a decision to break her marital vows and have an affair. If he's still getting in touch with her it's her fault. She has the ability to block his number, e-mail address or any other way that he has to contact her. If she doesn't do that then it's on her, not him. Your confronting him won't do anything to resolve the situation. Your wife has to totally let go... and she hasn't done that.
I'm going through the same thing. My husband has a mistress and i know because she contacted me this week. I still haven't said anything to him about it and i act as if i don't know. The best thing to do I think anyway is don't talk to him, don't let him know he is messing up your relationship cause that is just making him feel better. He is trying to take your wife from you. Talk to your wife and ask her to cut it out or leave with him. Let her decide this on her own. Don't push her to anything or you will lose her. Mean while you handle your business at home as if nothing happened. Saying anything to her out of anger will only hurt her more and push her to him. Try to get your thoughts together do not do or say anything out of the way to her. But do not lower yourself to their level by contacting him. Sometimes walking away is the best thing to do. I know it hurts!!!
I had the exact same thing happen to me. You need to face the fact that your wife DOESN'T love you. Why do you want her back? If she comes back, she'll do the same thing again. I think a vast majority of women live in a fantasy world. They think men are supposed to come home from work every day with a dozen roses, cook them dinner, massage their feet, and make love to them like a porn star. Sorry women, that's only in the movies. Women, by nature, are ONLY out for themselves, and they are loyal to none, that is American women. Wanting her back satisfies your heart, but keeping her faithful will be like fighting a forest fire with a garden hose.
It is her fault.. You said she promised to quit with him..But she also promised herself to you in marriage, and she lied. What makes you think she is honest now? If you chose to call him, then be calm and tell him you are the husband, and that you would appreciate it if he backed off, as the two of you are trying to work things out. Good luck, but I think you are wasting your time on your wife at this point.
well, I think if you have chosen to forgive her and he keeps trying to contact her, SHE should be the one to be taking control of that and telling him to stay away. I can appreciate you are angry as I think most people would be, but it's really up to her to end this.
i have confronted the other person as well as my husband. i didn't get angry with her unless she got mad at me. usually i would just ask WHY???? and i let her know he's married. at one point i was the other woman but didn't find out til after we were married so i knew to expect him to do it to me. and guess what... he's done it to me. lol. so confront him in a respectful kind of way. he may not know about u.
First of all, it takes two. If you're going to confront him, you need to confront her as well. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You let her get away w/ it once, she'll do it again.
Call him ...It won't make her quit ! Good luck.! If your wife is so immoral to cheat then its because she doesn't love you anymore!
contacting him with no stop the affair...trust me, I did this. It made the woman who was sleeping with my hubby laugh and pursue him more.
Look, your wife has shown you that she is very capable of crossing major trust lines that quite frankly, other women would never and could never do. So, why are you OK with settling for a lifestyle filled with a lack of love and trust? You may think you're ready to forgive her, but is she ready to stop fooling around? After my husband had his affair, I was constantly looking over his shoulder to seek and find evidence of further infidelity, which did occur. So what has she done to ensure that this is over with. The fact that he's still texting her is evidence that he's still receiving some kind of green from her. People stop texting when they KNOW it's over. Your sex and emotional life with this woman will never be the same as she has already very willingly bonded to this guy. Even if she decides to end it with him, what about the other men she'll want to screw. And, counseling can't change a person's character---they're either honest or not! The fact that she is capable of doing this to you should be enough for you to make a good life decision. Stop settling for scraps in life. Go find a quality person who will completely love and respect you. Good luck.
John, let me offer you this.
While I do very much appreciate your stance, let me ask you something. Have you ever known a man to have a woman which did not want him to have her? I think not. No, he is not breaking up your family, HE AND SHE ARE. Do not place the blame on him at least not any more blame then you place on her. She is no better then he is and she has it in her control to stop the texting and all else in a new york minute. She is not doing so. She did not say not and she is not saying stop now. Face that fact.
Now, maybe you feel that what happened is your fault or something. Okay, maybe you have been a scummy husband. But if you both decided to work it out, it requires her to do her part. And besides, being a scummy or ugly husband does not justify her cheating. Any women that says it does, you need simply to ask if they are just as willing to give a man a pass for cheating because the wife says no to sex often. Watch and see how rapidly women will circle the wagons and cover for one another and make it a personal thing.
Personally, I could care less if you broke the guys pelvis. It would not be seen by me as anything but what happens in spots like this. But let us not forget that he does not deserve that anymore then she does. Do not let her play you man. She is a cheat and you need to face it. He is no worse then she is and you need to come to grips with that fact. As I keep saying, one of the reasons women act as badly as they do is because they always seem to be able to play victim. If you let her do that, you have asked for what you get.Has anyone confronted the partner of a cheating spouse?
There was a woman in TX (lifetime made a movie about her) who confronted the mistress of her husband who took him away from her. She confronted her by means of a lawsuit using old TX laws about alienation of affection. That woman won the lawsuit branding that mistress wrong to steal a married man away. It was very interesting.
Dont confront the man she had the affair with. What could happen is that you lose control and kill him or injure him and end up in jail! Your wife and that man is not worth you going to jail!
Your wife is whom you need to speak with. You need to ask her if the affair is over and if she loves you. If she doesnt love you and it isnt over then divorce her because you deserve better.
Change your phone numbers. Tell him that according to law if you have sex with a married woman it is a crime. And if he insists on calling her when she wants it to stop then you will get a restraining order and have him charged with adultry (both a married person and the single person that has sex with a known married person are in trouble according to law).
It takes 2. Your wife said she ';would'; break it off..... It does not sound very promising at all. You could go punch the crap out of him but he is not the one who was in the marriage and broke your trust, your wife did. If she really meant that she wanted it over she would change her number, email, any means of him being able to contact her but it does not seem that way. Honestly the best thing you could do is kick her out and move on with your life. Do not forgive her straight away because she will do it again. She needs to know what she has lost because of a bit of sex with another guy. If down the track (month or year) you forgive her then that is your decision but you need to distant yourself from her for a little while because if she does not have it out of her system she will cheat again
He's not the one responsible for breaking up your family. If your family is broken apart it is because your wife made a decision to break her marital vows and have an affair. If he's still getting in touch with her it's her fault. She has the ability to block his number, e-mail address or any other way that he has to contact her. If she doesn't do that then it's on her, not him. Your confronting him won't do anything to resolve the situation. Your wife has to totally let go... and she hasn't done that.
I'm going through the same thing. My husband has a mistress and i know because she contacted me this week. I still haven't said anything to him about it and i act as if i don't know. The best thing to do I think anyway is don't talk to him, don't let him know he is messing up your relationship cause that is just making him feel better. He is trying to take your wife from you. Talk to your wife and ask her to cut it out or leave with him. Let her decide this on her own. Don't push her to anything or you will lose her. Mean while you handle your business at home as if nothing happened. Saying anything to her out of anger will only hurt her more and push her to him. Try to get your thoughts together do not do or say anything out of the way to her. But do not lower yourself to their level by contacting him. Sometimes walking away is the best thing to do. I know it hurts!!!
I had the exact same thing happen to me. You need to face the fact that your wife DOESN'T love you. Why do you want her back? If she comes back, she'll do the same thing again. I think a vast majority of women live in a fantasy world. They think men are supposed to come home from work every day with a dozen roses, cook them dinner, massage their feet, and make love to them like a porn star. Sorry women, that's only in the movies. Women, by nature, are ONLY out for themselves, and they are loyal to none, that is American women. Wanting her back satisfies your heart, but keeping her faithful will be like fighting a forest fire with a garden hose.
It is her fault.. You said she promised to quit with him..But she also promised herself to you in marriage, and she lied. What makes you think she is honest now? If you chose to call him, then be calm and tell him you are the husband, and that you would appreciate it if he backed off, as the two of you are trying to work things out. Good luck, but I think you are wasting your time on your wife at this point.
well, I think if you have chosen to forgive her and he keeps trying to contact her, SHE should be the one to be taking control of that and telling him to stay away. I can appreciate you are angry as I think most people would be, but it's really up to her to end this.
i have confronted the other person as well as my husband. i didn't get angry with her unless she got mad at me. usually i would just ask WHY???? and i let her know he's married. at one point i was the other woman but didn't find out til after we were married so i knew to expect him to do it to me. and guess what... he's done it to me. lol. so confront him in a respectful kind of way. he may not know about u.
First of all, it takes two. If you're going to confront him, you need to confront her as well. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You let her get away w/ it once, she'll do it again.
Call him ...It won't make her quit ! Good luck.! If your wife is so immoral to cheat then its because she doesn't love you anymore!
contacting him with no stop the affair...trust me, I did this. It made the woman who was sleeping with my hubby laugh and pursue him more.
Look, your wife has shown you that she is very capable of crossing major trust lines that quite frankly, other women would never and could never do. So, why are you OK with settling for a lifestyle filled with a lack of love and trust? You may think you're ready to forgive her, but is she ready to stop fooling around? After my husband had his affair, I was constantly looking over his shoulder to seek and find evidence of further infidelity, which did occur. So what has she done to ensure that this is over with. The fact that he's still texting her is evidence that he's still receiving some kind of green from her. People stop texting when they KNOW it's over. Your sex and emotional life with this woman will never be the same as she has already very willingly bonded to this guy. Even if she decides to end it with him, what about the other men she'll want to screw. And, counseling can't change a person's character---they're either honest or not! The fact that she is capable of doing this to you should be enough for you to make a good life decision. Stop settling for scraps in life. Go find a quality person who will completely love and respect you. Good luck.
Does a spouse have rights to his deceased wife's life estate if the life tenant was alive at time of death?
A man leaves his land to his wife in the form of a life estate. The remainder interest is left to two daughters, with remainder interest to take effect upon his wifes death. One of the daughters dies 8 months before the life tenant(his wife). The daughter did not have a will. The daughter and her spouse had no children though the daughter has a son(the grantor's grandson). Does her spouse have rights to the land since the will states the interest takes effect upon the life tenants death? Shouldnt it stay in the family?Does a spouse have rights to his deceased wife's life estate if the life tenant was alive at time of death?
the spouse does not have any interest in the life estate. The son of the deceased daughter should receive his mother's part ';per stirpes';. (which basically means to the next heir in line related by blood, not marriage)
Even if the deceased daughter had a Will, the life estate could not be willed over to the husband as the previous Will (the original grantor) usually states that if the beneficiary dies, then their issue (child) shall take the share of their respective parent.
Now if the daughter had died without issue (a child) then the estate would fully vest in the living sister.
the spouse does not have any interest in the life estate. The son of the deceased daughter should receive his mother's part ';per stirpes';. (which basically means to the next heir in line related by blood, not marriage)
Even if the deceased daughter had a Will, the life estate could not be willed over to the husband as the previous Will (the original grantor) usually states that if the beneficiary dies, then their issue (child) shall take the share of their respective parent.
Now if the daughter had died without issue (a child) then the estate would fully vest in the living sister.
Are there any statistics on remarring your former spouse after a divorce?
Why would you go through the trouble of divorcing them to go back to them? There's obviously something there that made you do something so terribly drastic. o.O
As far as statistics, what sort of statistics are you asking for? Statistics on how successful this is? Quite frankly, I don't believe in statistics. You're life isn't like everyone else's life. It depends on the two of you, not numbers.Are there any statistics on remarring your former spouse after a divorce?
By re-marrying your spouse is the biggest gamble you are taking in your life.Are there any statistics on remarring your former spouse after a divorce?
Don't know, but I had a cousin that remarried her ex-spouse and it all worked out.rosacea facial
As far as statistics, what sort of statistics are you asking for? Statistics on how successful this is? Quite frankly, I don't believe in statistics. You're life isn't like everyone else's life. It depends on the two of you, not numbers.Are there any statistics on remarring your former spouse after a divorce?
By re-marrying your spouse is the biggest gamble you are taking in your life.Are there any statistics on remarring your former spouse after a divorce?
Don't know, but I had a cousin that remarried her ex-spouse and it all worked out.
Does your spouse know you masturbate as often as you do?
If you masturbate often, does your spouse know you are doing it that often?Does your spouse know you masturbate as often as you do?
Yes, he has always known. I don't think our sex life would have been as great as it was (and is) if I didn't already know what I liked. I've never hidden from him that I do it, and he's never hidden it from me. To be honest, I would likely think it was strange if he *didn't*, and I *know* he finds it odd when a woman never does it.
Besides, sometimes he gets worn out. It can happen to guys too, even though the stereotype is that they're up for sex 24/7. He's generally as insatiable as I am, but he also sleeps more often (I'm a severe insomniac, so I'm often up all night wondering why I'm not tired, which is why I am here plaguing Y!A all night when I *should* be sleeping ::lol::). There are times I need to ';take care of myself';, iykwim. He's never had a problem with this, even when I'm doing it every day. It just a part of human nature... sometimes our needs need to be met, and it's up to us to take care of it. ::lol::
Self-pleasure is merely another form of pleasure. There's no shame in that.Does your spouse know you masturbate as often as you do?
Don't masturbate, oh o.k.,,, everyone masturbates,it's natural and a simple human need, my boyfriend does it,and so do I,, we know how often and sometimes we do it together. This is very natural and when it comes down to it, if you want to share with your partner how much or how often you pleasure yourself is your business, and truthfully when it comes to it, your partner has no right to ask you how often you please yourself, your body is yours to do with as you please. Pleasing yourself does not mean your partner is any less interested in you physically, however, if your partner would rather masturbate then have sex with you, there is an issue.
Yes. I actually told him the other day that I masturbate several times a week. If you have a secure relationship, you should feel comfortable talking about these things. I'm not implying that you don't have a secure relationship, but maybe if you're open about your choices, he'll react more positively than you'd expect!
you sound hot...
edit...to all the ppl who dont get how some dont maturbate??? well fcuk people...just b/c you do, it doenst mean you speak for the rest of the human race...I have never maturbated....no reason really, i just never have tried it and haev no intererest in trying it....i can not stand ppl who think they speak for every one.....trust me you ppl aint that special that u speak for us all...at the end of the day, your just nobody.....
sparky, this rant is not for you...I am directing it to the women (or should i say s tup id little girls who thik they speak for us all)...
I DONT MASTURBATE EVER AND I AM DAM PROUD OF THAT...
Good day...!!
Im not married yet, but I dont.. However, I know that my fiance does.. more than he admits to Im sure. The way I look at it, he has needs (guys cant hide their desires as well as we ladies can) and sometimes Im not around to fill those needs (we dont live together). So I dont care how often he does it, if he needs to thats fine, as long as I still get some love too.
Shouldnt have to masturbate often when you have a spouse, unless he likes to watch, WINK!
Sex is sex. To master bait go fishi`n , A good partner makes all the difference. If I could find the (right one) I would not be in the pickle I'm in..
its a private matter and it should stay that way unless he is invited to join lol.
He definitely knows. He's a solider and isn't home as much as I'd like, so what else am I supposed to do?
I don't, but my husband would know if I did.
you bet - we keep a chart in our bedroom.
don't masturbate
Yes, he has always known. I don't think our sex life would have been as great as it was (and is) if I didn't already know what I liked. I've never hidden from him that I do it, and he's never hidden it from me. To be honest, I would likely think it was strange if he *didn't*, and I *know* he finds it odd when a woman never does it.
Besides, sometimes he gets worn out. It can happen to guys too, even though the stereotype is that they're up for sex 24/7. He's generally as insatiable as I am, but he also sleeps more often (I'm a severe insomniac, so I'm often up all night wondering why I'm not tired, which is why I am here plaguing Y!A all night when I *should* be sleeping ::lol::). There are times I need to ';take care of myself';, iykwim. He's never had a problem with this, even when I'm doing it every day. It just a part of human nature... sometimes our needs need to be met, and it's up to us to take care of it. ::lol::
Self-pleasure is merely another form of pleasure. There's no shame in that.Does your spouse know you masturbate as often as you do?
Don't masturbate, oh o.k.,,, everyone masturbates,it's natural and a simple human need, my boyfriend does it,and so do I,, we know how often and sometimes we do it together. This is very natural and when it comes down to it, if you want to share with your partner how much or how often you pleasure yourself is your business, and truthfully when it comes to it, your partner has no right to ask you how often you please yourself, your body is yours to do with as you please. Pleasing yourself does not mean your partner is any less interested in you physically, however, if your partner would rather masturbate then have sex with you, there is an issue.
Yes. I actually told him the other day that I masturbate several times a week. If you have a secure relationship, you should feel comfortable talking about these things. I'm not implying that you don't have a secure relationship, but maybe if you're open about your choices, he'll react more positively than you'd expect!
you sound hot...
edit...to all the ppl who dont get how some dont maturbate??? well fcuk people...just b/c you do, it doenst mean you speak for the rest of the human race...I have never maturbated....no reason really, i just never have tried it and haev no intererest in trying it....i can not stand ppl who think they speak for every one.....trust me you ppl aint that special that u speak for us all...at the end of the day, your just nobody.....
sparky, this rant is not for you...I am directing it to the women (or should i say s tup id little girls who thik they speak for us all)...
I DONT MASTURBATE EVER AND I AM DAM PROUD OF THAT...
Good day...!!
Im not married yet, but I dont.. However, I know that my fiance does.. more than he admits to Im sure. The way I look at it, he has needs (guys cant hide their desires as well as we ladies can) and sometimes Im not around to fill those needs (we dont live together). So I dont care how often he does it, if he needs to thats fine, as long as I still get some love too.
Shouldnt have to masturbate often when you have a spouse, unless he likes to watch, WINK!
Sex is sex. To master bait go fishi`n , A good partner makes all the difference. If I could find the (right one) I would not be in the pickle I'm in..
its a private matter and it should stay that way unless he is invited to join lol.
He definitely knows. He's a solider and isn't home as much as I'd like, so what else am I supposed to do?
I don't, but my husband would know if I did.
you bet - we keep a chart in our bedroom.
don't masturbate
What US visa options are there for the spouse of a US citizen?
Long story short. My wife is a US citizen, I'm a UK citizen and we are settled in the UK. Before my wife and I were married (we were just dating at the time) I was refused entry to the US to visit her. After that, when we were engaged and she was going to be moving here, I applied for a B visa via the US embassy to help her move and they refused the application, saying 'I could not prove ties to the UK' despite the fact my family are here, my fiancee had a visa to live in the UK and we had a wedding booked in the UK! We are now married and want to be able to visit my in-laws. We need to be able to do this at short notice because they are not in good health etc. Has anyone else been in this situation or does anyone know what visa options there are for it? It seems that unless we want to settle in the US, we have to apply every time and go through the interview process etc. They refused it without reason last time and we have no idea what to do.What US visa options are there for the spouse of a US citizen?
You need to see a seasoned immigration attorney. Don't look for an answer here because your situation is complex.What US visa options are there for the spouse of a US citizen?
You could try getting divorced and marrying citizens of your own respective countries - neatly eliminating the problem.
There are many spouses of US citizens who visit the US only as tourists, and get tourist visas without trouble. I can only suggest that you reapply with proof of your and your wife's employment in the UK, your lease, her residency permit.
You aren't supposed to be able to travel on the visa waiver once you've been refused a visa, but I understand that many do so successfully.
Qualifying for a Visa
Applicants for visitor visas must show that they qualify under provisions of the Immigration and Nationality Act. The presumption in the law is that every visitor visa applicant is an intending immigrant. Therefore, applicants for visitor visas must overcome this presumption by demonstrating that:
The purpose of their trip is to enter the U.S. for business, pleasure, or medical treatment;
They plan to remain for a specific, limited period; and
They have a residence outside the U.S. as well as other binding ties which will insure their return abroad at the end of the visit.
your wife being a US citizen should not have to ask to come to the US ......
did the US immigration not give you a reason for refusing you entry ?
if you have a recent passport demanded by the US , you should not need a visa .unless you wanted to stay longer than the 90 days allowed to all the schengen countries ..........
why would the US said that you cannot prove UK ties ? do you have citizenship of the UK ? is there a problem proving your citizenship ?
if you have more infos to be given ? please do so .....i will look .......
You need to see a seasoned immigration attorney. Don't look for an answer here because your situation is complex.What US visa options are there for the spouse of a US citizen?
You could try getting divorced and marrying citizens of your own respective countries - neatly eliminating the problem.
There are many spouses of US citizens who visit the US only as tourists, and get tourist visas without trouble. I can only suggest that you reapply with proof of your and your wife's employment in the UK, your lease, her residency permit.
You aren't supposed to be able to travel on the visa waiver once you've been refused a visa, but I understand that many do so successfully.
Qualifying for a Visa
Applicants for visitor visas must show that they qualify under provisions of the Immigration and Nationality Act. The presumption in the law is that every visitor visa applicant is an intending immigrant. Therefore, applicants for visitor visas must overcome this presumption by demonstrating that:
The purpose of their trip is to enter the U.S. for business, pleasure, or medical treatment;
They plan to remain for a specific, limited period; and
They have a residence outside the U.S. as well as other binding ties which will insure their return abroad at the end of the visit.
your wife being a US citizen should not have to ask to come to the US ......
did the US immigration not give you a reason for refusing you entry ?
if you have a recent passport demanded by the US , you should not need a visa .unless you wanted to stay longer than the 90 days allowed to all the schengen countries ..........
why would the US said that you cannot prove UK ties ? do you have citizenship of the UK ? is there a problem proving your citizenship ?
if you have more infos to be given ? please do so .....i will look .......
If God ordered you to sacrifice either your spouse or your child to Him, which would you choose ?
And a Merry ';Old Testament'; X-Mas to you.If God ordered you to sacrifice either your spouse or your child to Him, which would you choose ?
Child because with the Spouse I can always make a replacement child.If God ordered you to sacrifice either your spouse or your child to Him, which would you choose ?
If I attempted to ';sacrifice'; another human being's life on the premise that ';God'; told me to do it, then I would end up in a mental hospital for the criminally insane. Andrea Yates killed her five children, and there have been several other mothers within the last few years who have done the same thing. A father was convicted this week in Dallas of killing his ex-wife and their two little boys because he was convinced they waere poisoning him. (The children were 5 and 7). They all used the defense of ';rescuing their children from the devil'; or ';God told them to do it';. They are either securely locked away where they can never repeat their henous crimes, or sentenced to death.
Well I don't believe that God would give you an ';either or'; decision like that. He would tell you exactly who and what he wanted you to do and to learning form the Bible if you do what he says, something great can come out of it and Abraham's child didn't end up being sacrificed and he was blessed for being obedient. Btu i believe that if he had not been obedient his son may have died anyway.
';Obedience is better than sacrifice.
God - I assume you are speaking of the God of the Bible - wouldn't ask anyone to do such a thing. Even in the Old Testament, Abraham didn't ACTUALLY sacrifice his son, God (at this ONE time and in this ONE place in history) was testing Abrahams' faith, and God stopped him from sacrificing his son, before he actually did it.
Especially under the New Testament (New Covenant) God wouldn't ask anyone to sacrifice their spouse or child.
1. God doesn't ask for sacrifices anymore since Jesus by on sacrifice has forever perfected those who are being made holy.
2. If God did ask for a sacrifice, knowing like Abraham that God could raise a person from the dead, I would probably choose my spouse because she would have had time to know Jesus as her Lord and Savior and been guaranteed a place in Heaven.
It would be more selfish of me to want to save my spouse, my life partner, the one whom God gave me to be a suitable helper as well as to bring children into the world, than it would to save a child who while a gift from the Lord still requires a lot of time and effort and love and sacrifice to raise up properly.
Spouses are a dime a dozen, you can always get another one of those. A child is another matter.
God wouldn't do that? I see a lot of you aren't familiar with the story of Abraham. But yes, Abraham was stopped before the deed was done. But Abraham didn't know it was a test of faith until then.
since the practice of the OT is over, I dont think that situation would ever happen.... And IF it were to happen, he would be specific.
anyway, probably the kids.
I dont think I could live without the spouse.... of course I dont have kids yet, so its bias.
I dont remember any 'spouse' sacrificing in the bible. I know it talked about how He asked Abraham to sacrifice his son, but stopped him at the end...
That doesnt sound like God at all.
Im sure he'd just be playing.
You ever heard of Isaac (correct if wrong)?
God prolly laughed his holy *** off,
';you really thought i was gonna make you stab your own son,
didnt you?';
Prolly got nothing to do up thurr in heaven that time.
But anyway, if he had a really important reason for making me do that,
I wouldnt choose.
I'll just ask him, if he wanted one of us dead, why didnt he just
tell me to offer myself or something if he wanted to know if Im
totally loyal to him.
Why make me choose between people?
Im agnostic btw.
I don't believe in God.. And if there would actually be one and he is how he's perceived.. i don't like him anyway. So I would say no then attempt to punch him in the Taint.
I love how everyone is saying that God wouldn't do that. Especially to children. It seems none of you have read the bible because he's already killed children. In egypt he killed every first born son of any family that didn't paint a line on their door in sheeps blood. You know, the last plague? If God is real he's an Evil prick. But I highly doubt he's real. It's all fiction in that stupid book.
That is the ultimate test of indoctrination into any mind control cult, don't you think? Will you kill your loved one for the cult? Yessa massa.
There's no reason an all-powerful God would ';need'; me to sacrifice anyone to it. I'd tell God to take a hike and that I'll worship him/her/it when its worthy of it.
If God has ordered me to sacrifice either my spouse or my child to Him then I wouldn't do it. God will never order us to choose which either my spouse or my child should i decide to kill.
In any form of religion, god will not ask for a sacrifice. It is already written in each and everybody,s fate..... you will not have choice.
Well lets say I have the same belief as you. I would have to go with option 3 and do myself in. I couldn't nor would I ever cause bodily harm to my family or friends or anyone.
God can never order anyone to do anything. Abraham and you do whatever you want to do.
Neither. Why would I sacrifice either to a made up Santa Claus for adults that are afraid of dying?
Whichever one I loved less. Probably my kid... I could always have another one of those. And plus, people kill kids all the time.
If God ordered me to do anything I would check myself into the nearest psychiatric hospital.
God wouldn't ask that, but for the record, I believe I would just offer myself as a sacrifice.
I would sacrifice both-and myself if necessary
FIrst, I would marry you and then I would sacrifice you.
I can't believe in hypothetical fairy tale questions....but I'd sacrifice you if I got the option
i would like to cheat on god...cheating on God is like cheating your self..but obeying the word of God can lessen the culpable of your sin that you cheat...
YOU MEAN I COULD CHOOSE?
But then, God will never ask for a sacrifice anymore.
Spouse- I think I would get less jail time that way.
Myself right now. I am not married and he would not kill an innocent child. He can have me instead
Been there, done that.
Merry Christmas to you dear.
Neither that's no God to me.
I'd tell god to shove it where the sun don't shine.
I'd suggest God finds one of his sheep to do that.
Spouse. : )
Child because with the Spouse I can always make a replacement child.If God ordered you to sacrifice either your spouse or your child to Him, which would you choose ?
If I attempted to ';sacrifice'; another human being's life on the premise that ';God'; told me to do it, then I would end up in a mental hospital for the criminally insane. Andrea Yates killed her five children, and there have been several other mothers within the last few years who have done the same thing. A father was convicted this week in Dallas of killing his ex-wife and their two little boys because he was convinced they waere poisoning him. (The children were 5 and 7). They all used the defense of ';rescuing their children from the devil'; or ';God told them to do it';. They are either securely locked away where they can never repeat their henous crimes, or sentenced to death.
Well I don't believe that God would give you an ';either or'; decision like that. He would tell you exactly who and what he wanted you to do and to learning form the Bible if you do what he says, something great can come out of it and Abraham's child didn't end up being sacrificed and he was blessed for being obedient. Btu i believe that if he had not been obedient his son may have died anyway.
';Obedience is better than sacrifice.
God - I assume you are speaking of the God of the Bible - wouldn't ask anyone to do such a thing. Even in the Old Testament, Abraham didn't ACTUALLY sacrifice his son, God (at this ONE time and in this ONE place in history) was testing Abrahams' faith, and God stopped him from sacrificing his son, before he actually did it.
Especially under the New Testament (New Covenant) God wouldn't ask anyone to sacrifice their spouse or child.
1. God doesn't ask for sacrifices anymore since Jesus by on sacrifice has forever perfected those who are being made holy.
2. If God did ask for a sacrifice, knowing like Abraham that God could raise a person from the dead, I would probably choose my spouse because she would have had time to know Jesus as her Lord and Savior and been guaranteed a place in Heaven.
It would be more selfish of me to want to save my spouse, my life partner, the one whom God gave me to be a suitable helper as well as to bring children into the world, than it would to save a child who while a gift from the Lord still requires a lot of time and effort and love and sacrifice to raise up properly.
Spouses are a dime a dozen, you can always get another one of those. A child is another matter.
God wouldn't do that? I see a lot of you aren't familiar with the story of Abraham. But yes, Abraham was stopped before the deed was done. But Abraham didn't know it was a test of faith until then.
since the practice of the OT is over, I dont think that situation would ever happen.... And IF it were to happen, he would be specific.
anyway, probably the kids.
I dont think I could live without the spouse.... of course I dont have kids yet, so its bias.
I dont remember any 'spouse' sacrificing in the bible. I know it talked about how He asked Abraham to sacrifice his son, but stopped him at the end...
That doesnt sound like God at all.
Im sure he'd just be playing.
You ever heard of Isaac (correct if wrong)?
God prolly laughed his holy *** off,
';you really thought i was gonna make you stab your own son,
didnt you?';
Prolly got nothing to do up thurr in heaven that time.
But anyway, if he had a really important reason for making me do that,
I wouldnt choose.
I'll just ask him, if he wanted one of us dead, why didnt he just
tell me to offer myself or something if he wanted to know if Im
totally loyal to him.
Why make me choose between people?
Im agnostic btw.
I don't believe in God.. And if there would actually be one and he is how he's perceived.. i don't like him anyway. So I would say no then attempt to punch him in the Taint.
I love how everyone is saying that God wouldn't do that. Especially to children. It seems none of you have read the bible because he's already killed children. In egypt he killed every first born son of any family that didn't paint a line on their door in sheeps blood. You know, the last plague? If God is real he's an Evil prick. But I highly doubt he's real. It's all fiction in that stupid book.
That is the ultimate test of indoctrination into any mind control cult, don't you think? Will you kill your loved one for the cult? Yessa massa.
There's no reason an all-powerful God would ';need'; me to sacrifice anyone to it. I'd tell God to take a hike and that I'll worship him/her/it when its worthy of it.
If God has ordered me to sacrifice either my spouse or my child to Him then I wouldn't do it. God will never order us to choose which either my spouse or my child should i decide to kill.
In any form of religion, god will not ask for a sacrifice. It is already written in each and everybody,s fate..... you will not have choice.
Well lets say I have the same belief as you. I would have to go with option 3 and do myself in. I couldn't nor would I ever cause bodily harm to my family or friends or anyone.
God can never order anyone to do anything. Abraham and you do whatever you want to do.
Neither. Why would I sacrifice either to a made up Santa Claus for adults that are afraid of dying?
Whichever one I loved less. Probably my kid... I could always have another one of those. And plus, people kill kids all the time.
If God ordered me to do anything I would check myself into the nearest psychiatric hospital.
God wouldn't ask that, but for the record, I believe I would just offer myself as a sacrifice.
I would sacrifice both-and myself if necessary
FIrst, I would marry you and then I would sacrifice you.
I can't believe in hypothetical fairy tale questions....but I'd sacrifice you if I got the option
i would like to cheat on god...cheating on God is like cheating your self..but obeying the word of God can lessen the culpable of your sin that you cheat...
YOU MEAN I COULD CHOOSE?
But then, God will never ask for a sacrifice anymore.
Spouse- I think I would get less jail time that way.
Myself right now. I am not married and he would not kill an innocent child. He can have me instead
Been there, done that.
Merry Christmas to you dear.
Neither that's no God to me.
I'd tell god to shove it where the sun don't shine.
I'd suggest God finds one of his sheep to do that.
Spouse. : )
Has your spouse ever walked in and caught you masturbating to sexy TV commercials?
My wife caught me last night, I can't help it, those damn geico commercials with that hot googly eyed money get me every time.Has your spouse ever walked in and caught you masturbating to sexy TV commercials?
LOL!
My wife caught me with the Mrs. Butterworth commercials before. Have you seen Mrs. Butterworth, that sista got some junk in the trunk. And her syrup is soooo tasty. MMmmm.Has your spouse ever walked in and caught you masturbating to sexy TV commercials?
I always feel like somebody watching me LMFAO you are crazy but I masturbate on the phone with him when he is not around so he can't really catch me.
LOL I was thinking of another commercial
Flo from Progressive is hotter
not sexy commercials but just master bating in general..i feel like a lil kid getting in trouble! LOL! but most of the time he will join in and help me finish! Which is always nice!
I think you are into the lizard.
No, but I would get her to help me finish.
NO
jaja wow.
Are you kidding? My wife collapses in an orgasm when the money pops on the screen...
Those eyes are SO hot!
never... lol... hahhahaha u must be kidding. right... so whats her reactions...?. masturbating with u...? or watching u finish ur job... lol..
LOL!
My wife caught me with the Mrs. Butterworth commercials before. Have you seen Mrs. Butterworth, that sista got some junk in the trunk. And her syrup is soooo tasty. MMmmm.Has your spouse ever walked in and caught you masturbating to sexy TV commercials?
I always feel like somebody watching me LMFAO you are crazy but I masturbate on the phone with him when he is not around so he can't really catch me.
LOL I was thinking of another commercial
Flo from Progressive is hotter
not sexy commercials but just master bating in general..i feel like a lil kid getting in trouble! LOL! but most of the time he will join in and help me finish! Which is always nice!
I think you are into the lizard.
No, but I would get her to help me finish.
NO
jaja wow.
Are you kidding? My wife collapses in an orgasm when the money pops on the screen...
Those eyes are SO hot!
never... lol... hahhahaha u must be kidding. right... so whats her reactions...?. masturbating with u...? or watching u finish ur job... lol..
How would you or did you choose your spouse?
What criteria do/did you use? Is/was it just physical attraction, or is/was it more than that? Do you or did you have certain characteristics that you require(d) first? If you are married did you get them?How would you or did you choose your spouse?
So much more that just the physical attraction! I WILL (I'm 13) love him for him.
So much more that just the physical attraction! I WILL (I'm 13) love him for him.
Does watching adult movies enhance intimacy with your spouse?
We've been married nearly 7 years and things are going great, but would love to spice things up a little. Not really a fan of lingerie. Thinking of trying porn. We've never tried watching it (together) before. Please serious, non crude responses only.Does watching adult movies enhance intimacy with your spouse?
I would think that if it is something you both want to try together and you choose what to watch with each others sensibilities in mind, it might be kind of fun. But, if the reason you want to try it is because he watches it without you currently and it makes you feel bad about yourself then that is probably a hugely wrong reason and you're going to end up feeling worse about yourself.Does watching adult movies enhance intimacy with your spouse?
YES , I think it will help.My husband and I watch porn and it turns us on ,and we go at it. You love each other and that is the best part of a marriage at how much you can share with each other.
It depends on what you watch.Do you want a storyline or straight into the action?
I suggest you do a little background work before choosing what to watch but to answer your question,yes,it can work very well
i dont think so. i watched it with someone once and honestly i never liked porn, but i got disgusted. i got disgusted with the man too.
I guess that might help but when he starts watching it and not paying attention to you well just remember u started it.
My husband %26amp; I tried it, it really didn't have much of an effect, try talking dirty to each other
Yes it will, me and Daisy prefer barnyard porn. Yee Haw.
Try it and find out.
Yes, try it. If you don't like it just turn it off!
no it wrecks it
yeah, i think it does...rosacea facial
I would think that if it is something you both want to try together and you choose what to watch with each others sensibilities in mind, it might be kind of fun. But, if the reason you want to try it is because he watches it without you currently and it makes you feel bad about yourself then that is probably a hugely wrong reason and you're going to end up feeling worse about yourself.Does watching adult movies enhance intimacy with your spouse?
YES , I think it will help.My husband and I watch porn and it turns us on ,and we go at it. You love each other and that is the best part of a marriage at how much you can share with each other.
It depends on what you watch.Do you want a storyline or straight into the action?
I suggest you do a little background work before choosing what to watch but to answer your question,yes,it can work very well
i dont think so. i watched it with someone once and honestly i never liked porn, but i got disgusted. i got disgusted with the man too.
I guess that might help but when he starts watching it and not paying attention to you well just remember u started it.
My husband %26amp; I tried it, it really didn't have much of an effect, try talking dirty to each other
Yes it will, me and Daisy prefer barnyard porn. Yee Haw.
Try it and find out.
Yes, try it. If you don't like it just turn it off!
no it wrecks it
yeah, i think it does...
Can my spouse travel in a dependent visa being a srilankan as i am an indian?
Hi Iam saya
Iam an indian. I need to know is it possible for my spouse to travel along with me on a dependent visa being a srilankan? What are the procedures? Could you plz guide me?
Regards
SayaCan my spouse travel in a dependent visa being a srilankan as i am an indian?
If you're talking about the two of you traveling to the US, the answer is almost certainly yes. For example, if you're an H1b, your spouse would be eligible for an H4 visa, regardless of her nationality. The only question is whether she's your wife, not where she was born.
Iam an indian. I need to know is it possible for my spouse to travel along with me on a dependent visa being a srilankan? What are the procedures? Could you plz guide me?
Regards
SayaCan my spouse travel in a dependent visa being a srilankan as i am an indian?
If you're talking about the two of you traveling to the US, the answer is almost certainly yes. For example, if you're an H1b, your spouse would be eligible for an H4 visa, regardless of her nationality. The only question is whether she's your wife, not where she was born.
Is your spouse your life? If he/she were to die today, would you not be able to go on?
I know it's a tough question to answer, but is your spouse your reason for living? Also, please indicate if you are atheist or have any type of religious belief?Is your spouse your life? If he/she were to die today, would you not be able to go on?
My wife is the love of my life and it would most assuredly be devastating to lose her. However, she is not my reason for living and I would be able to go on with life after an appropriate time of grieving. Yes I have religious belief as a Christian.Is your spouse your life? If he/she were to die today, would you not be able to go on?
I am a Christian.
No, my spouse is not my ';life';. I used to put him first in all things in my life and I found that b/c I put everything on the line emotionally, mentally, that I was getting disappointed and let down. And, b/c he was my ';everything';, when he did let me down is was a devastating thing.
Now, I try to keep Christ as my #1 priority, and in serving Him, I find myself putting my husband first (second to God, but above myself %26amp; children). But at the same time, I understand, expect and deal when my husband lets me down...after all, he's only human. :)
My Lord has NEVER let me down and I know he never will.
I hope this makes sense!
BTW, I now have a wonderful, full, satisfying and exciting marriage!
when we got to my husband's first duty station i was given a book, i don't remember the name of it. but it was about what to do when your husband passed away. i read the whole thing but i cried while i did it. funeral arrangements, life insurance, moving off base, it all became very real to me. this was something i never thought about until after i read that book. it really changed the way i think.
my husband deploys in november and it's something i try not to think about but it happens at least once a day. i really think my heart would actually break if it happened. i'm tearing up just typing this. we've got a 2 year old and one on the way and it's terrifying thinking he might leave in november before or right as the new baby is born and he won't ever get to see him or her again.
but.. if i had to name a reason for living it would be my kids. i love my husband dearly but my life would not stop if he passed away. our kids would continue growing and they would need a very strong mother since their father wouldn't be there anymore. i would never remarry and i think it'd be hard for me to even date. i was raised that way, we just don't divorce or remarry after the death of a spouse. if he died my love would die with him.
i'm not sure what religion you could classify me as. i believe in *a* god, it's just not as simple as most religions make it. i don't think gay people are an abomination and i believe in evolution. i also believe that all those times i was partying hard as a teenager and i drove completely trashed and woke up not knowing how i got home... someone made sure i got there. i don't believe in a god who creates people who can think and feel for themselves and then punishes them for doing so. take that as you will.
i'm not a 100% Atheist, but i am a 100% Equal Religion basher.
she's a big part of my life, but she's not my life. she's in my life. i chose her to be in my life. if she was to die, it'll take some time to get over her, but my life, and my family's life will go on.
Well, the alternative is suicide and I have more faith that God knows what is going on in my life. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It would be painful and hard, but my baby girl and I would make it. My husband got us life insurance so if it came to that we would at least have a small nest egg for a while.
I have learned from sad experience that we all have to keep going no matter how painful that is. The question is that sometimes people are so overwhelmed and disoriented by the impact that they lose a sense of direction or even how to cope. That is where the YA community can step in and help. A few words they can relate to sometimes can mean an awful lot to a floundering person. So... come here often and post.
Sadly, I think I might be kind of relieved. We have 2 small children which is the only reason we stay together, but he has health problems and I am doing all the work, so I probably sound like a horrible person, but I would be very sad, but relieved at the same time.
I would be lost %26amp; devastated if my husband were to die. But life goes on. My husband is not my reason for living.
God gave me life and he is my real reason for living, and we both; hubby and I, will live it until God does us part.
I am a Protestant Christian.
He was. He didn't die but was torn out of my life unexpectedly (by his own choice). I almost died. It was unbearable.
It would have been better for me if he had died because I wouldn't have had to face the betrayal.
Atheist.
It would be devastating. I would be able to go on, but life wouldn't be the same. I would never be the same.
I'm religious, but not practicing.
yes my wife is my life along with the twins she is carrying and if she died today i don't think there would be any point in me going on i would be too distraught and i would probably attempt to kill myself and i am a christen......
It would crush me...but there are other loved ones to keep me going, like my son that's getting married in the fall.
I am an independant Christian, not affiliated with any of the corrupt denominations.
Yes, my spouse is my life, but, so are my children. If he were to die, I would be crushed. But, I would have to pick of the pieces for my children's sake and move on.
I'm a Christian.
I would be sad but honestly I'd recover quickly.
Not as quickly as my evil aunt who announced that she was marrying the man who lived next door, 1 hour after her husband's funeral. No kidding.
i'm Agnostic
There is really no such thing as an Atheist.
You either believe in God freely now, or you will eventually be forced to believe in him when you die.
I know I wouldn't be able to work for a few months thats for sure. My husband is everything to me, and vise versa. We are both Baptist.
Shame on you, Mr. O!! hahaha! I had a simular comment but if my husband ever saw it, i'd be explaining that forever. So i am pleading the fifth..
No my spouse is not my life (clearly since we are getting a divorce) but yes i would still be very sad if he died
Yes he would want me to be happy even though he wouldn't be sharing that happiness with me.
Yes she is. Our kids are grown. Don't really know, would definitely miss her, but know to see her again..(besides, I'll probably go first, statistically speaking...lol)
i would have to say...
PARTY OVA' HEEEEREE....
i would be devastated but i would go on. i have to i have two small children.
It would knock me on my *** for quite a while. I love my husband sooo much. I would have to go on but I'd never ever forget him.. I don't even know if I could remarry. I'm Christian.
It would hurt deeply, but not able to go on?? NOPE... I love God first, kids second, me third, my mother fourth... so by the time I get to her.. well.. I have all those others to live for!
of course it would be horrible, but no, he isn't my life, and i would go on...i have kids, i have to.
My wife is the love of my life and it would most assuredly be devastating to lose her. However, she is not my reason for living and I would be able to go on with life after an appropriate time of grieving. Yes I have religious belief as a Christian.Is your spouse your life? If he/she were to die today, would you not be able to go on?
I am a Christian.
No, my spouse is not my ';life';. I used to put him first in all things in my life and I found that b/c I put everything on the line emotionally, mentally, that I was getting disappointed and let down. And, b/c he was my ';everything';, when he did let me down is was a devastating thing.
Now, I try to keep Christ as my #1 priority, and in serving Him, I find myself putting my husband first (second to God, but above myself %26amp; children). But at the same time, I understand, expect and deal when my husband lets me down...after all, he's only human. :)
My Lord has NEVER let me down and I know he never will.
I hope this makes sense!
BTW, I now have a wonderful, full, satisfying and exciting marriage!
when we got to my husband's first duty station i was given a book, i don't remember the name of it. but it was about what to do when your husband passed away. i read the whole thing but i cried while i did it. funeral arrangements, life insurance, moving off base, it all became very real to me. this was something i never thought about until after i read that book. it really changed the way i think.
my husband deploys in november and it's something i try not to think about but it happens at least once a day. i really think my heart would actually break if it happened. i'm tearing up just typing this. we've got a 2 year old and one on the way and it's terrifying thinking he might leave in november before or right as the new baby is born and he won't ever get to see him or her again.
but.. if i had to name a reason for living it would be my kids. i love my husband dearly but my life would not stop if he passed away. our kids would continue growing and they would need a very strong mother since their father wouldn't be there anymore. i would never remarry and i think it'd be hard for me to even date. i was raised that way, we just don't divorce or remarry after the death of a spouse. if he died my love would die with him.
i'm not sure what religion you could classify me as. i believe in *a* god, it's just not as simple as most religions make it. i don't think gay people are an abomination and i believe in evolution. i also believe that all those times i was partying hard as a teenager and i drove completely trashed and woke up not knowing how i got home... someone made sure i got there. i don't believe in a god who creates people who can think and feel for themselves and then punishes them for doing so. take that as you will.
i'm not a 100% Atheist, but i am a 100% Equal Religion basher.
she's a big part of my life, but she's not my life. she's in my life. i chose her to be in my life. if she was to die, it'll take some time to get over her, but my life, and my family's life will go on.
Well, the alternative is suicide and I have more faith that God knows what is going on in my life. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It would be painful and hard, but my baby girl and I would make it. My husband got us life insurance so if it came to that we would at least have a small nest egg for a while.
I have learned from sad experience that we all have to keep going no matter how painful that is. The question is that sometimes people are so overwhelmed and disoriented by the impact that they lose a sense of direction or even how to cope. That is where the YA community can step in and help. A few words they can relate to sometimes can mean an awful lot to a floundering person. So... come here often and post.
Sadly, I think I might be kind of relieved. We have 2 small children which is the only reason we stay together, but he has health problems and I am doing all the work, so I probably sound like a horrible person, but I would be very sad, but relieved at the same time.
I would be lost %26amp; devastated if my husband were to die. But life goes on. My husband is not my reason for living.
God gave me life and he is my real reason for living, and we both; hubby and I, will live it until God does us part.
I am a Protestant Christian.
He was. He didn't die but was torn out of my life unexpectedly (by his own choice). I almost died. It was unbearable.
It would have been better for me if he had died because I wouldn't have had to face the betrayal.
Atheist.
It would be devastating. I would be able to go on, but life wouldn't be the same. I would never be the same.
I'm religious, but not practicing.
yes my wife is my life along with the twins she is carrying and if she died today i don't think there would be any point in me going on i would be too distraught and i would probably attempt to kill myself and i am a christen......
It would crush me...but there are other loved ones to keep me going, like my son that's getting married in the fall.
I am an independant Christian, not affiliated with any of the corrupt denominations.
Yes, my spouse is my life, but, so are my children. If he were to die, I would be crushed. But, I would have to pick of the pieces for my children's sake and move on.
I'm a Christian.
I would be sad but honestly I'd recover quickly.
Not as quickly as my evil aunt who announced that she was marrying the man who lived next door, 1 hour after her husband's funeral. No kidding.
i'm Agnostic
There is really no such thing as an Atheist.
You either believe in God freely now, or you will eventually be forced to believe in him when you die.
I know I wouldn't be able to work for a few months thats for sure. My husband is everything to me, and vise versa. We are both Baptist.
Shame on you, Mr. O!! hahaha! I had a simular comment but if my husband ever saw it, i'd be explaining that forever. So i am pleading the fifth..
No my spouse is not my life (clearly since we are getting a divorce) but yes i would still be very sad if he died
Yes he would want me to be happy even though he wouldn't be sharing that happiness with me.
Yes she is. Our kids are grown. Don't really know, would definitely miss her, but know to see her again..(besides, I'll probably go first, statistically speaking...lol)
i would have to say...
PARTY OVA' HEEEEREE....
i would be devastated but i would go on. i have to i have two small children.
It would knock me on my *** for quite a while. I love my husband sooo much. I would have to go on but I'd never ever forget him.. I don't even know if I could remarry. I'm Christian.
It would hurt deeply, but not able to go on?? NOPE... I love God first, kids second, me third, my mother fourth... so by the time I get to her.. well.. I have all those others to live for!
of course it would be horrible, but no, he isn't my life, and i would go on...i have kids, i have to.
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