How is the goal of finding a spouse different versus finding a job or getting a degree?

Getting a degree is a matter of sticking with it. Even if you fail, you can go back and take courses over until you get your degree. Finding a job, you can take one that will get you by until the right opportunity comes along. With a spouse, it is different. You don't want to settle for someone until someone better comes along, you don't want to keep failing until you get it right. Why would you put someone through all that? Find someone you enjoy being with, become friends, build trust. Start slowly and don't expect too much. When you meet the right one, hopefully you are smart enough to recognize them and good enough to not mess it up.How is the goal of finding a spouse different versus finding a job or getting a degree?
If more people take the serious business-like approach to dating and marrying (as in doing compatibility tests and making sure they match personalities, spiritually, child-rearing-wise, recreation-wise, and so on), maybe there'd be less divorce %26amp; broken families, and more strongly bonded families. Think about all the stuff you have to do for a really good competitive high-end job. Even in places like retail stores, grocery stores, and bookstores, they might ask very specific questions to see if you fit in as a valued worker.


To answer your question:


Too many people look for a spouse and end up ';with the wrong one'; because of the lovebug and not being serious enough about marriage and then have to decide to stay (and either fight for the marriage or cheat) or leave. Most people take getting a career or degree more seriously.How is the goal of finding a spouse different versus finding a job or getting a degree?
Love your screen name. Made me laugh.





I don't really care for the whole ';finding a spouse'; term. Seems very mechanical. I like to think that in both cases everything happens for a reason, but in the career aspect you do have a bit more control. Finding your someone isn't something that you should strive for, more like fall into.






haha, is this a serious question?





do you interview your potential spouses like an employer would for a job interview? you should do that!
A job and degree earn you money.





If your a man the spouse costs you money, if your a woman there is no difference.



The later is so much easy.......