If you were married and your spouse was lost at sea and proclaimed deceased but never actually found What?

...What would your Religion/Belief/Practice's view on Re-Marriage?


What is yours?If you were married and your spouse was lost at sea and proclaimed deceased but never actually found What?
i would grieve without closure for a long time, but likely fall for a close friend years later





agnostic, widowerIf you were married and your spouse was lost at sea and proclaimed deceased but never actually found What?
My religion and personal beliefs allow for re-marriage.





I can't honestly say what I would do in that situation. I can't imagine being married to anyone other than my husband but I also know that I enjoy being married. My parents always told each other that should anything happen to either of them they wanted the other to remarry because that would be saying that being married to the other one had been a good experience and one they would want to repeat. My father died a bit over year ago - just a month shy of their 35th anniversary - my mom is currently dating not because she doesn't miss my father terribly but because having a mate was a good experience and she wants someone in her life like that again.
I think for me it would depend on how much time had passed on before I could ever consider re-marriage and even then I would have to be sure that I could love them as much as I did my first for it would not be fair to treat her any less or second best so I would have to have as strong of feelings for a new wife to re-marry again. It would not effect my faith as a Cherokee in anyway, their are no laws or such forbidding re-marriage.





I DID however find this: Members of the same clan were considered to be near relatives who were not allowed to intermarry. In ancient times, Cherokees seldom married a second time, since the only second marriages considered honorable were those involving a brother's widow who needed a man to provide for her. SO as you can see it was possible but not always recommended in my peoples past.
My belief system's view would be that the surviving spouse would be a widow/widower and that he/she could remarry at their personal discretion.





If it were my significant other, I wouldn't want to remarry. I mean look at the movie ';Cast Away';...she got married and he was really still alive and they were still in love and couldn't rightly do anything about it. So if it had been like 12 or 13 years, I'd remarry if I found someone I guess...but it'd be hard to find someone as perfect as who I've got. I don't honestly think I could do it...





Wow :) Great question! Very thought provoking!
I have no idea what my religion would state, so I'll star it %26amp; see if someone does.





Personally, I'd have to be in the moment to know. I tend to have a sense of ';energy';, so hopefully I'd have a gut sense to go on. There's no intellectual thought that would work in this.





There must be an abandonment/disappearing clause somewhere in the marriage rules for Judaism. Marriage is done as a contract with a signed ketuba. For divorce the man must give the women a ';get';, but this isn't divorce.
My religion would have nothing to do with it, but I don't know if I would ever remarry or not. I suppose other factors would come into play. How happy was I in my marriage. Was I with my ';soul-mate';? If I was married to someone I believed to me my ';one and only'; then no, I don't think I could ever remarry. Once you love that deeply, I don't think you can fill the emptiness with someone/something else.
answer: I don't think anyone can predict how they'd feel or react. Personally, it would be a long period of grief before even thinking of dating.





Religiously - I think it would be expected for someone to grieve but then decide whether remarriage would be an option, especially if the spouse is declared dead.
If your spouse is declared legally dead then you are free to get married again. That process takes about five years for a missing person to be declared deceased.





Otherwise you could get a divorce if you wanted but that seems kind of stupid to me because of all the legal ramifications.
Re-marriage in my opinion should only occur when a husband/wife has deceased. If your spouse is definetely gone, then he/she would want you to be happy. If that's with someone else, than so be it. BUT divorce and re-marriage to me is wrong in a way. When you are at the alter, you say ';til death do us part';. not ';until i dont like you anymore';. That's why re-marriage after death has occured is fine. I hope this answers your question!
More than likely I would choose not to re-marry. I have lots of friends, so I wouldn't worry about being lonely most of the time. Besides, the vow states 'Til death do us part'.





I'm not going to interpret that as' Til one of us dies and the other gets bored.'





When you promise somebody forever, you keep it.
i don't really believe monogamy [monandry in my case] is realistic and probably wouldn't marry anyway, but if a year or so goes by and there's no trace, i would expect to be held blameless for going on with my life.
This wouldn't have a thing to do with my religion. Because of my love for my husband, I would wait until his body was found. If it never was, I would never remarry.
I would have to believe that she went home to be with the Lord. By that, God allows re-marriage and I would feel secure in that.
hmm hardcore question.





at some point in your life you most likely have to move on.


i think a term of 10 year's will be a sign of moving on.
Marry again? Why on earth would you do the thing that forced you to throw a person off the back of a cruise ship again?
I'm an atheist, and I probably wouldn't remarry for the fact I'd loved my spouse %26amp; couldn't love again.
I think it is ok to remarry. My church would agree.


I believe it is 7 years before they declare you deceased.
I'm an agnostic. I don't think I could ever remarry again. I can't replace my husband and I wouldn't want to try.
in any case of death, I dont think I'd ever re-marry... i'd alwasy be comaring which isn't fair to either spouse
Pray about it. Only God knows if they are still alive or if they are with Him! =) Sorry thats a tough one!
I'm telling you, the sharks ate her!





That's my story, and I'm sticking to it!
I honestly don't think I could get re-married knowing my husband could still be alive...
i told my wife i will never marry again and i meant it
Mourn for the loss, then see what happens.
I don't know as I would even consider it.
Who says I didn't CAUSE my spouse to be lost at sea???