How do you know when it is just resentment and not that you don't love your spouse any more.?

We have both made mistakes. But even after working on it, I feel like if we were not married we would not even be good friends. We got married young and have grown very apart. How do I tell if it is just resentment or if it is just done.How do you know when it is just resentment and not that you don't love your spouse any more.?
1. Stop making mistakes.


2. Decide if you desire to be a good friend.


3. Act on your desire.How do you know when it is just resentment and not that you don't love your spouse any more.?
Both. If you have to ask then its done. Its very very common for youth marriages to fold over and you're not wrong to think this way. Marrying young is always a bad decision because as you get older what you want changes. I assume you married out of love. He made you smile and laugh and feel good about yourself. Most of the time talking and fantasizing about a future together and what flowers were going to be at your wedding way before determining your future. Its always important to take both love and rationality into consideration before taking such a big step.





Understand that if you do choose to leave the marriage it will be incredibly hard, you will think of the past constantly, the way he made you feel, etc but its important to remember why exactly you left and how its time you plan for yourself and not how to get back at him for replacing the young love you once had with this hollow stranger.





If you arent ready and believe there is still a change to fix it then simply go back in time. Those old resturants he'd take you, those funny pictures you took at the park, the embarrassing moments, the crazy situations of completet juvenile lust. Take it back and remind him why you got married. Why you married so young. And wy it once seemed like life would be perfect together. It is your happiness and your life, do what you will with it and hope in the end that it brings you higher.








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I hope I served you as some sort of assistance.
My sister just went through a divorce after 33 years of marriage. They were married young. Never in my life have I ever seen such resentment between two people. Yes they tried to work at it but it was to little to late. They were both at fault. It even came down to pure hatred between the two. Your gut should be enough to tell you its over. Always listen to your instincts. Stop beating a dead horse.
well if there is that much resentment then it is done. if you feel like you aren't married anymore then maybe you shouldn't be.





if you do want it to work maybe you guys should try some marriage counseling or something so that you can work on getting a fresh start. but that is only if you want to.
JUST resentment. Resentment is huge. Resentment does not exist because of small problems, leaving the toilet seat up, not rinsing a dish, etc. Resentment is proof of a lot of pain and is hard to overcome.


If you want to find out, why not do a trial separation, but this will only work if you actually do stay separate and not depend on each other for anything.
Same difference.


Getting married young has little to do with it.





Everyday you both constantly make choices to grow together or grow apart; choose apart too often and apart happens.





You fell in love once before, you could do it again if you both wanted to.
If you're not sure why you feel how you feel, maybe it would be beneficial to speak to a marriage counselor before considering throwing in the towel. That will help you decide if the issue is in the relationship or simply because you two grew and changed in different directions...
Talk, talk, talk. It's the only cure. You won't lose anything. If you lose someone, it means that you never had them.
You know it's over once you don't care enough to bring the spark back in your marriage. It sounds like that's how your marriage is.
you shouldn't be with somebody you don't like enough you wouldn't be friends with if you had a pick